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You, my young lady, need to dump this guy yesterday!
He's selfish, self centered, and does NOT have your best interests in mind when he makes these 'demands'...
He won't call them demands - and he's got you so hypnotized that YOU won't call them demands, but they ARE demands!
He's demanding that you allow him to sleep with whomever he wants and still have you... THAT'S BOGUS!
Go find a good guy to hook up with who will be honest, open, loving, caring and into YOU and only YOU and YOU'LL BE HAPPY! You'll never find happiness with a douchebag like the one you're 'attached' to... detach yourself IMMEDIATELY!
Thank you - not only for the kind words, but for letting me KNOW they were kind words... lol
I hope this young lady heeds our advice - sometimes I find myself reading these posts and responding as if it were my own daughter. I hope she knows that our intentions are for HER good - anyway, thank you again.... Have a great day!
Op~ You're only 22. You have a lot of life ahead of you. You have a lot to learn. Start walking until you are in to a full run...away from this guy. For him to give you an ultimatum like this & for you to consider it, well it just makes me sick. You are so much better than you know & you do NOT need to put up with this. Detach yourself from him immediately! If you don't, you are in for a long time of being hurt repeatedly. And in the end, he will leave & detach from you. It will hurt a lot more then.
Op~ You're only 22. You have a lot of life ahead of you. You have a lot to learn. Start walking until you are in to a full run...away from this guy. For him to give you an ultimatum like this & for you to consider it, well it just makes me sick. You are so much better than you know & you do NOT need to put up with this. Detach yourself from him immediately! If you don't, you are in for a long time of being hurt repeatedly. And in the end, he will leave & detach from you. It will hurt a lot more then.
OP, the sooner you leave this guy, the sooner you can meet someone who's 100% into you, and only you.
Let's tally up the facts: He's a terrible communicator, selfish AND is actively trying to hook up with other women (unsuccessfully, might I add, which is sad for HIM). From what you've written, you seem like a great communicator, thoughtful and plan to be faithful to your boyfriend.
I have been in a relationship with this guy for 2 years and we have been friends for a year before that. He is 28 years old and I am 22 years old if that matters. I found his OkCupid account on his computer and he has been hitting on other girls. He claims he hasn't had sex or cheated on me but he lied about what he was doing on the account. He claims he has urges to have sex with other people but loves me. He claims that this is a need and that it is a deal breaker for us if I don't agree to those terms. I feel uncomfortable with him sleeping with other girls as he is not very good at communicating and he is very selfish at times. I need help making up my mind as I see him tomorrow here are my three options on how things will go.
1. we break up but I think I would have to cut him out of my life completely but please note I am very attached to him.
2. we take a break for a month and get back together and get it out of his system.
3. We remain monogamous. I agree to his terms but I probably won't be very happy about this arrangement and if we do this in the long term I want to be monogamous later.
If anyone can think of a middle ground that would be great. I don't want to lose him but I don't want to compromise myself for him.
Location: Huntersville/Charlotte, NC and Washington, DC
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Originally Posted by burgler09
This board makes me feel like the best guy in the world sometimes.
Some posters here think I'm the biggest most selfish ahole in the world. After reading this thread, while I'm an selfish ahole, OP's guy shows I'm not the spawn of Satan.
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