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I'm a confident person. I don't date girls that hang around with ex's still.
Whenever one of my ex's tries to contact me, I ignore it.
To the OP:
Looking at that conversation you posted with her, she doesn't sound to be worth the time. If a girl spoke to me like that (I don't know if you're controlling, just going off that I'm not) I wouldn't stick around. Total lack of respect in that conversation on her part.
Your problem, deep down is with your gf, who has a history of cheating and promiscuity. Maybe you should consider a different gf. If she cheated before and was quite promiscuous, its quite likely she will not change.
A five month affair is a pretty bad thing, but most all of us have done pretty bad things. The important point is do we feel sorry for it, have we accepted responsibility for it and have we learned from it (which includes of course not doing it again). Blaming age and smirking at the paramour's innuendo is none of that, and my hunch is her lack of self-awareness and empathy for the affair is what is legitimately making you feel insecure about the relationship (or, that's how I read it, since I didn't read mention of her doing anything other than blaming age).
At this age group get togethers is a big part of socializing, so avoiding this guy isn't a solution, plus it's merely a distraction from the core issue, so I would forget that. But that doesn't mean you have to suffer the anxiety of the situation. IMO your only recourse is an honest convo - assess or otherwise ask her if she's sorry, if she takes responsibility, if she learned something, and if it will never happen again. My hunch is since you guys have fought about this the convo probably won't go well, but at least you can look back and say you tried.
Even though I should have saved the convo for face-to-face, this is what unfolded:
Me: Every time I am around X, I think about how you had an affair for 5 months
Her: Ok lol
Me: I am bringing it up because it bothers me
Her: No need to bring it up rn. I know you want to keep me away from my friends
Me: He disrespected you and your relationship
Her: when I was 19
Me: If I had a girl around that I had an affair with, you would feel u uncomfortable
Her: Not if you ****ed her 4 years ago and her best friend was dating her and I knew you had no interest in her
Her: 4 years is a very long time
Her: but keep pulling **** out of your ass to fight about
Her: you’re just controlling and don’t want me to have friends
Her: you ruin my life every day
Her: I hate you
She sounds like a childish lowlife. Go with your instincts and find a woman who can have an adult conversation about how you feel.
Do you really want to spend any more time with someone who doesn't give a damn about what you think?
I'm a confident person. I don't date girls that hang around with ex's still.
Whenever one of my ex's tries to contact me, I ignore it.
To the OP:
Looking at that conversation you posted with her, she doesn't sound to be worth the time. If a girl spoke to me like that (I don't know if you're controlling, just going off that I'm not) I wouldn't stick around. Total lack of respect in that conversation on her part.
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