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Okay, but how many women can be with a guy who would show almost no public display of affection towards them? Answer honestly!
Then it is obvious that *many* women find affection even in public are important to them... you will need to learn to either fill that need or live your life looking for the one that doesn't need it as much.
You said you haven't had many relationships... maybe all you need is time and experience.
Well that's very simplistic. However, what if you both got along very well and had a great connection in every other aspect?
Your "girlfriend" will quickly let you know "what if ...."
There are women out there who do not like PDA. It would be better for you to spend time with someone like that than to constantly be rejecting one who does want to show affection more.
Well that's very simplistic. However, what if you both got along very well and had a great connection in every other aspect?
It would be pretty unusual to get to a point in your relationship where you got along very well and had a great connection if you are so dramatically different in this regard. Most people aren't kissing every 30 seconds. They might hold hands or keep an arm around a waist or something along those lines. If stuff like that bothers you and you are dating someone who really wants that, it's doubtful that your relationship will progress to the "great connection" phase. She will probably just feel like you aren't that into her and will be drawn to more demonstrative people. Likewise, you will probably feel smothered and "overtouched," and she will make you feel uncomfortable.
Okay, but how many women can be with a guy who would show almost no public display of affection towards them? Answer honestly!
I think it's common sense in the dating world that the more "particular" you are about something, the more difficult to find a match.
There's nothing right or wrong about it.
I think you may have intimacy issues. Do you generally feel uncomfortable when someone makes physical contact with you? Do you come from different backgrounds?
For the record, "heavy petting" should not be done in public.
But anyway, I see two potential problems: YOUR views on physical contact, and HER ability to respect your feelings.
Physical contact doesn't HAVE to be limited to a "prerequisite for sex." A little bit is a nice way to show spontaneous affection and intimacy, which is NOT a synonym for intercourse, by the way. You COULD think about loosening up a little. She may WANT you to hold her hand, walk with your arm around her or lean over and give her a kiss every once in a while.
But if she disregards your discomfort completely, that's a problem too.
It's up to the two of you to find a balance. Hopefully it doesn't include her straddling you at the mall. Most people don't enjoy seeing others just going at it in public, hence the phrase, "get a room."
Oh believe me, i have sat on the train many of times and opposite to a couple whom are pecking each other on the lips every 30 seconds almost! lol...to me it makes a guy seem effeminate, and pecking every 30 seconds is something a little kid does to his/her mummy when they're happy/excited lol
I think this phrase is telling. You seem to be somehow stuck in the "girls are stupid and have cooties" preteen mentality.
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to me it makes a guy seem effeminate, and pecking every 30 seconds is something a little kid does to his/her mummy when they're happy/excited lol