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Most people do not like facing the totality of their actions unless forced in to doing so, it's just easier to live in a world of grey instead of making choices that dictate a direction.
The justification process that goes on in some people's minds is seriously fascinating to me.
All that said, just screw him and stop the silly antics already.
If you do not care about the surrounding things being affected, why have all the questions about them?
It's ok, he couldn't write that at all. I didn't start the flirting nor do I throw myself at him. He has had plenty of chances to end it all. Helping me etc. I've told him to just leave it but he didn't want to. Told him several times but he wanted to carry on seeing each other.
OP, we're just kidding around, embellishing. Please don't take that little digression seriously.
What do you mean, "he wanted to carry on seeing each other"? He's been meeting you at the gym on his own time after a certain point, without getting paid as a trainer?
And: would you really be seriously interested into getting into a relationship with someone old enough to be your dad? Or are you just kind of high on the attention, and the help he gave you?
Most people do not like facing the totality of their actions unless forced in to doing so, it's just easier to live in a world of grey instead of making choices that dictate a direction.
The justification process that goes on in some people's minds is seriously fascinating to me.
All that said, just screw him and stop the silly antics already.
If you do not care about the surrounding things being affected, why have all the questions about them?
**** or get off the pot
Lot of people don't like the black and white mindset, but in all honesty it makes life a lot less complicated.
Lot of people don't like the black and white mindset, but in all honesty it makes life a lot less complicated.
It's fine to live with grey, but it's a problem if you only ever see with it.
People need to accept black and white has to happen for choice to be made.
You should be capable of understanding when and where to draw those lines for yourself.
In a situation like this you either want it or you just want to live wondering..that isn't less complicated, it's filling your life with unresolved worries and fears.
It's just a different kind of "complicated" the kind that eventually drives you insane and looking to offset blame to others for your own personal responsibility in all things
Last edited by rego00123; 07-14-2016 at 03:58 PM..
Just a thought. Men and women can be friends can't they? I know it's my fault I have more than friendly feelings but in general....men and women can be friends like that can't they? Like talk about those kinds of things and be that close?
No. Especially not if one of them is married and going through a divorce.
Just a thought. Men and women can be friends can't they? I know it's my fault I have more than friendly feelings but in general....men and women can be friends like that can't they? Like talk about those kinds of things and be that close?
I really don't think I could talk to her red. That's really crossing a line isn't it? Plus he would probably not be happy about it and could compromise any child custody if she got angry or if he is lying to me then she would put two and two together and it will be my fault she leaves him and I'll have actually broken up their marriage then. I know that sounds ironic but I'm working on the vice that he is getting divorced at the moment and also have not crossed any lines of cheating.
I thought you said you didn't know if he had actually left. Are you saying he is still living with her?
When people provide BS free advice they are being insulting. It's obvious you're determined to f!ck this guy whether he is married or not; just don't be sleazy and do it in the gym. Please save us the pity party when it doesn't work out.
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