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Woman here, I would not wait until marriage and I DID not. I have no regrets.
If I dated a man who didn't want sex before marriage, I'm not so sure it would work. Not necessarily because of the sex thing, but likely because he would be religious. I am not religious and I can't see my marriage working out with someone who was.
I was brought up with old fashion morals and values and told that you should wait until marriage to have sexual intercourse. So i am sticking to that until it happens, but it seems like I am just going to be alone forever.
You are not alone .
You have something of value when others have tossed it away.
You don't know how much you'll like or dislike sex, or how often you'll want it, or even how good at it you and your partner are. You could easily marry someone who doesn't match you, and that will be a major source of dissatisfaction and conflict for both of you. This happens often enough even for those who have sex before marriage, and even do so for years and live together as well. The risk of mismatch is far higher for you - the only benefit I see is that you may not know if the quality of sex is poor once you do have it, so won't know any better to expect more from a partner.
Don't forget masturbating, sharing own wishes and likes, discussions about sex, being close other than having sex and watching romantic movies together
Also a couple in love who could agree the most part (if other is bdsm and other is none of it, then not a fit) is able to train and practise...
Not having sex before marriage does not mean the whole subject is taboo.
Those guys who wait either have a very low sex rive, and find it EASIER to wait...and/or are extremely religious. If either or both of those things are attractive to you then good, because that's what you'll end up getting. However, don't be fooled by the religious guys falling "madly in love" and wanting to get married quick...because alas, for them too - it's all about the sex!
If youre going to commit to one person for the rest of your life, it makes sense to be sure that you two are sexually compatible before going into that. Why wait and end up unhappy.
Why is it so hard for guys, waiting until marriage to have sex? I am a virgin and I am saving myself until marriage to have sexual intercourse. But most if not all guys, can't wait until marriage to have sexual intercourse. They all need it now, and can't wait it out. Why is this?
I support your decision to save yourself for your wife.
Or should I have said spouse? I was thinking the OP was a guy, but correct me if I'm wrong.
Why is it so hard for guys, waiting until marriage to have sex? I am a virgin and I am saving myself until marriage to have sexual intercourse. But most if not all guys, can't wait until marriage to have sexual intercourse. They all need it now, and can't wait it out. Why is this?
More power to you but it is not just guys. I am a woman, did not wait, would not wait and am happy for it. At least I will never think or feel I missed out on anything. IMO, sex and sexuality is natural and I don't get why it is "taught" to be taboo. It's also a heck of a lot of fun People just have too many hang ups.
As for you I think you need to stick with like minded individuals. Maybe an abstinence group or one within your religion.
Why is it so hard for guys, waiting until marriage to have sex? I am a virgin and I am saving myself until marriage to have sexual intercourse. But most if not all guys, can't wait until marriage to have sexual intercourse. They all need it now, and can't wait it out. Why is this?
Because as a virgin you don't know what your missing so waiting is not a problem, having had sex makes ^^^^ it near impossible IMO.
I'm sure if you had you would understand mate
Ps a lot of people don't share the same beliefs as you with waiting for marriage..... So why would they?
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Why would I have wanted to wait? There is nothing immoral between two consenting people having sex, and its a ton of fun, when done right.
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Originally Posted by funymann
You have something of value when others have tossed it away.
Virginity doesn't have value. It's just a social construct, a very malleable one.
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People just have too many hang ups.
