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Why would I have wanted to wait? There is nothing immoral between two consenting people having sex, and its a ton of fun, when done right.
Virginity doesn't have value. It's just a social construct, a very malleable one.
That's your opinion and it has no value.
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I agree that it the value of virginity is a social construct and that sex is a wonderful thing to share assuming that it is between two consenting adults. No it isn't just men either... many women hold the same views. There is nothing wrong or immoral about it.
If you choose to save yourself for marriage, I would say good for you! Its your personal choice and one that speaks to your commitment to you beliefs. Would you expect you mate to also be a virgin till marriage? If I were the same, my only concern would be missed opportunities for wonderful potential mates due to the smaller dating pool...
Why is it so hard for guys, waiting until marriage to have sex? I am a virgin and I am saving myself until marriage to have sexual intercourse. But most if not all guys, can't wait until marriage to have sexual intercourse. They all need it now, and can't wait it out. Why is this?
IDK, waiting for marriage simply isn't the default anymore; most people don't believe there is a good reason to wait. But really, does what "most guys" do really matter? Your only real concern should be whether or not your potential spouse wants to wait with you.
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Originally Posted by funymann
That's your opinion that has no value.
Care to put that in a proper sentence so people can understand you?
Do you mean "That is your opinion. Your opinion has no value to me."?
Well, actually, part of my statement that virginity is a social construct isn't really an opinion really, it isn't a medical or scientific construct,. That virginity as a concept is a malleable one is actually a fact, not an opinion, since the definition of the term has changed greatly over time (this is documented), and actually still means different things to different people.
Or were you referring to my statement that there is nothing immoral about two consenting people having sex? Is that what you disagree with?
Why is it so hard for guys, waiting until marriage to have sex? I am a virgin and I am saving myself until marriage to have sexual intercourse. But most if not all guys, can't wait until marriage to have sexual intercourse. They all need it now, and can't wait it out. Why is this?
Why is it so hard for guys, waiting until marriage to have sex? I am a virgin and I am saving myself until marriage to have sexual intercourse. But most if not all guys, can't wait until marriage to have sexual intercourse. They all need it now, and can't wait it out. Why is this?
Simply because they dont want to. Not everyone feels the way you do about waiting.
Why is it so hard for guys, waiting until marriage to have sex? I am a virgin and I am saving myself until marriage to have sexual intercourse. But most if not all guys, can't wait until marriage to have sexual intercourse. They all need it now, and can't wait it out. Why is this?
What's right, is what's right for each individual/couple.
There is no right or wrong answer.
You have your beliefs and values and I applaud you for sticking with them!
Why would I have wanted to wait? There is nothing immoral between two consenting people having sex, and its a ton of fun, when done right.
Virginity doesn't have value. It's just a social construct, a very malleable one.
While my beliefs align with yours (first part), I think the second part is wrong, and potentially out of line. Who are you to tell OP or anyone else that virginity doesn't have value? It clearly doesn't for you, and in fact, it doesn't really have value for me, but others may have different value systems.
I can't stand when people tell others what their values should be, even if the one telling aligns with me, as you do.
To the OP: If it's important to you, REALLY important, then wait. You'll find that person who shares your values and feels right. While I agree that "testing compatibility before marriage" is not only fun, but important, that's just me, and you clearly see different.
If you want encouragement, look at prior generations. I know so many people in their 60's and 70's who married their High School sweet heart some 50+ years ago. Many (not all, I'm sure) are still with the only partner they ever had. While those values don't appeal (and probably would not work for) to me, they may work for you, and they clearly worked for many others. My parents fall into that catagor, 53 years and counting....
Most important thing: Stick to YOUR values, and settle for nothing less. I don't agree with you, but you have 110% of my support and respect.
Why would I have wanted to wait? There is nothing immoral between two consenting people having sex, and its a ton of fun, when done right.
Virginity doesn't have value. It's just a social construct, a very malleable one.
There are physical differences involved at times as well, but it is not always an indicator of virginity. I think virginity can be a great thing to save for a partner, most people are too weak to wait until marriage. I would say her future husband would most certainly disagree with your sentiment.
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