My boyfriend won't take his shirt off around me (men, kissing, sexy)
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Kind of but I'm not like a supermodel or anything.
I just texted him a long message basically about how I love him and want him to feel 100% comfortable around me. I alluded to his hesitation with the shower and taking off his shirt. I asked him if there is anything I can do to make him feel comfortable and he said its not me its him. He didn't really go into any details or open up but I said hopefully we can grow together and he just said okay. Idk maybe he's uncomfortable talking about it.
What guy acts like this?
Do you really want to spend all your time trying to make him feel good about himself??
Sad as it seems, some just have parts of their body they are not comfortable with, and thus keep concealed.
Some people may be embarrassed by their feet -may always wanna have their feet covered during intimate activity. Socks, or for women stockings / leggings of some kind. In which case, they can't date anyone who loves feet. lol Someone brought up a good example with breasts. I am embarrassed with regards to my eyes. So I make a case of keeping them hidden behind dark glasses.
Depending on how long one has battled with their insecurity, they won't just automatically become comfortable instantly, even if their current partner does insist they don't care.
As stated by Timberline, some conversations are best done face to face -not text. And approached with a calm and understanding manner. If he is still not comfortable, you may just have to accept that taking his shirt off may not happen anytime soon. He'll have to come around at his own pace, The ball is in his court now, and if you keep pushing, it may have a counter effect of him getting even more insecure.
Some convos about intimacy, most of them I would suggest, are best done in person.
Maybe so, but only if the person will actually talk in person. If one is shy or self-conscious they may be able to say things in a text that they couldn't in person.
Do you really want to spend all your time trying to make him feel good about himself??
That's a lost cause. Move on...he said it's him.
I thought I heard it all here but that is a new one. DUMP him for leaving his shirt on during sex. Wow. Aren't you married? How can you have a long term partner if you would throw in the towel (or shirt) for such a minor issue???
It's not about you, it's about his comfort level and how uncomfortable it makes him feel to be around others when unclothed.
I think the point is that most people would feel that after nine months of a close relationship one should have progressed to the point of being comfortable and not be lumped in the category as "others".
The time to bring this up is when the two of you are together, in person. And it should be done subtly and sensitively, maybe seductively. Personally, I'd wait til we were starting to get frisky, and try kissing around his neck, chest and stomach, etc. Gotta lift up his shirt at least to do that, right? I can't imagine a man refusing to let me take his shirt off while I was doing that. And there would be lots of reassurance from me of how sexy I think he is.
I would never text someone about something like a body issue. Geeeeez are Millennials really that socially awkward...that they don't understand that some things deserve the context and nuance of an in-person conversation?
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