Husband Needs Advice from a Married Women (lesbian, cheating, kid)

[bobman]

Just to check, you don't have a daughter, do you ?

[NJVillasOutsider]

Originally Posted by Cantabridgienne

Was your wife 12 when you got married?

No she was 21 yrs when we got married,Shes 52 now,and Iam 56yrs

[NJVillasOutsider]

Originally Posted by convextech

Although, if it's any consolation, at her age (them being married 33 years puts her over 50 if she was 18 at the time of their wedding), it might be menopause, not pregnancy

She 52 yrs,married age 21

[NJVillasOutsider]

Thanks everyone for the help

[Ruth4Truth]

Originally Posted by njvillasoutsider

no she was 21 yrs when we got married,shes 52 now,and iam 56yrs

21 + 33 = 54. Not that it matters; some women are still menstruating at that age. I know a couple of women who had kids at 51.

[NJVillasOutsider]

Yes ok,but remember I have a Vasectomy all those years ago.Why would she need a pregnancy test?

[TaoistDude]

Originally Posted by NJVillasOutsider

Yes ok,but remember I have a Vasectomy all those years ago.Why would she need a pregnancy test?

Because she had sex with this other man, and feared she was pregnant. Don't hide from the facts, but you do need to decide what you're going to do about it as it sounds like this has been going on for a long time.

[homina12]

Originally Posted by NJVillasOutsider

Yes ok,but remember I have a Vasectomy all those years ago.Why would she need a pregnancy test?

Sorry, but most likely because she had sex with someone who hasn't had a vasectomy.

[NJVillasOutsider]

Thanks everyone for all your advice.

[Frihed89]

NJ, do you have any idea if she was having her menstruation period before all this started to happen? If not, she can't become pregnant, but that doesn't erase the other problem - infidelity.

You may want to confront her with what you know. Hopefully she will come clean. That even may be a relief to her, as I imagine she is also in emotional turmoil after this. That would be the starting point for what both of you decide to do regarding the steps you take.

As for the snide and pitiful comments about the sexuality of older women in previous posts, I have this to say. Some of your grandparents are still having sex and enjoying every minute of it. Will you be as lucky? Not with your current attitudes, as they will become a reflection of your future.