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Location: Stuck on the East Coast, hoping to head West
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You know, I wouldn't predicate my life on what a cheating spouse wants. Seriously. You need to do some serious reflection and decide if you want to stay married to someone who has so little regard for a marriage of 33 years and a faithful husband. What difference do her actions make at this point? What is it that you want her to say? Would you believe her?
She has already made her choices. She hasn't honored her vows. She betrayed you. If there is a pregnancy test, she hasn't even bothered to use protection.
This isn't your fault. If there were issues, she should have discussed them with you or gotten professional help.
I think you should step back from this relationship (emotionally & physically), take care of yourself, go out with some friends (and not to talk about this, just to give yourself a break), and think about what YOU want. You need some perspective to see if you even want this marriage. You can love someone and realize that they are not good for you.
Location: IN>Germany>ND>OH>TX>CA>Currently NoVa and a Vacation Lake House in PA
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Hire a private investigator and find out what's really going on. Your story sounds a bit out there to be honest, but if you truly want to know, go with a professional.
Even if you chose to try to save your marriage, you can't do it unless both of you are determined to do so and that can't be done without her also wanting to...which means exposing whatever is going on.
Believe Iam far from a good happy mood.Iam beyond hurt,and I have a broken heart,cant sleep,dont want to eat.,,,,etc.
No dude HER! Ask HER why she is in a good mood.
I would say something like, "Wow! You sure are in a good mood. Like your pregnancy test was negative or something. Like you got a raise at work or something."
I will say, I've never cheated on my husband and we've been together for over 25 years. He had a vasectomy 15 years or so ago. I missed a period a couple of years ago and my husband went out and bought the pregnancy test (many of them come in packages of two). We thought maybe his vasectomy failed. It hadn't and I wasn't pregnant, it was the beginning of menopause.
I would just ask her, though. I can't imagine how heartbroken you are right now. I am so sorry.
You know the obvious you just want someone to say it out loud for you so here it is "your wife is cheating on you and thinks she is pregnant," Really sucks she didn't use protection not just for the pregnancy but for disease protection for you both.
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