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Yep. Some people at age 53 are sedentary and act old. Others are physically active and in shape through their 60's and 70's. I ski. I know plenty of active and fit 70-something's.
I'm 58. A 20 year age gap would be too much for me. I'm focused on retirement planning. It would be hard for a 38-year-old to relate to that.
Yet you're a decade younger than the 2 idiots running for president
This is very true. I spent about 3 weeks spending time with a 45 year old woman this summer. She was a fun and free spirit; however, she never got comfortable with the age difference. She brought it up all the time. She was also very close to her children, who were 18+, and I don't think she liked that I wasn't as "amped" about them as she was. For me, it was why should I?
Anyways, age is just a number till you start trying to intertwine how both of you think and live. The differences can rear their ugly heads, if you're not known to be an "old soul" yourself.
I am an old soul. People have said that about me even as a child. Maturity is important for me in a relationship. My last relationship was with a 28 year old and I wasn't happy with his lack of commitment and lack of emotional maturity.
How has being "emotionally unstable" contributed to your dating experiences in the past? This condition seems to have been thrown in so casually, as if you have accepted it. While being unstable isn't rare, it just brings the thought: are you actively pursuing becoming "stable" through therapy or medication trials?
It does seem logical that a man this much older could have more stability, just by virtue of having been around longer, having more experiences.
Just go and have a nice night out, enjoy yourself and get to know him better. You certainly don't have to bank your future on a first meeting so just see what happens.
As far as I know, yes. He loves to hike and montano bike and there are plenty of places to do that here. He's more active than I am 🙁
I read that as "Monsanto bike" and was wondering if they'd invented a genetically modified bicycle.
My girlfriend is 2 1/2 years younger than I am. Where I am in my life plotting retirement in 7 or 8 years, it would be really tough to go much younger than that. When I'm retired and doing active leisure/travel/community service things, it would be tough to integrate that lifestyle with someone who is still on the corporate treadmill with 20 work years left. I'm not wealthy enough to fund 20 years of someone's early retirement. With a 2 1/2 year gap, we're close enough in age to retire the same day.
I read that as "Monsanto bike" and was wondering if they'd invented a genetically modified bicycle.
My girlfriend is 2 1/2 years younger than I am. Where I am in my life plotting retirement in 7 or 8 years, it would be really tough to go much younger than that. When I'm retired and doing active leisure/travel/community service things, it would be tough to integrate that lifestyle with someone who is still on the corporate treadmill with 20 work years left. I'm not wealthy enough to fund 20 years of someone's early retirement. With a 2 1/2 year gap, we're close enough in age to retire the same day.
That is a good point in the retirement part.
I worked with a guy in his late 40's early 50's and his wife is 12 yrs older and has been retired for a few years, she had some sweet retirement deal or something from her last employer, but yeah, it would suck to be stuck in the corporate grind while your spouse was busy doing fun things, anything would be fun other than the work grind.
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