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That's what I'm trying to say in a politer way, when I suggest that he probably needs to address some personality variables if he wants better dating options. I agree with Ruth's recommendation of counseling, particularly since he can afford it. It would be a really good investment in his future.
Again, though, I will state that income (just like looks) is not the issue here, OP. When I was 28 I think I made about $23K ($31K in today's dollars), and I'm no better looking than you, but I had dates and relationships with women to whom I was attracted. You can, too, but you're going to have to take a long look at yourself and make some changes.
but then again I'm a 28 year old guy in awesome shape who is extraordinarily successful with no kids. I should be dating the female version of that (minus the success part, I don't care how much money she makes)
As soon as you open your mouth and describe yourself it's a huge turnoff. If 99% of your comments describe yourself in above average superficiality, then that's who you can expect to attract. A female version of you who is in 'awesome' shape, according to her, very successful, according to her, and no kids. Do you see anything missing in this picture? Kindness, intelligence, a sense of humor....
It's exactly like posters who come here explaining how much more intelligent they are than the average person. When one is intelligent, attractive, nice, funny, any characteristic that is desirable, they don't have to convince anyone, we can decipher all by ourselves! And the majority have decided your demonstration of arrogance and superficiality here certainly has to spill over at some rate into your personal interactions in real life. Not attractive.
There is nothing that really stands out about you in this description into sports, food, music, movies, etc..like 80 percent of the population,I skip most profiles like that.
income amount doesn't mean success or not anyways. Its about how well you manage your money. I'm totally awesome with finances. I have a paid off Lexus GS, nearly paid off house, big retirement fund, perfect credit, etc...
again, though, i will state that income (just like looks) is not the issue here, op. when i was 28 i think i made about $23k ($31k in today's dollars), and i'm no better looking than you, but i had dates and relationships with women to whom i was attracted. You can, too, but you're going to have to take a long look at yourself and make some changes.
As soon as you open your mouth and describe yourself it's a huge turnoff. If 99% of your comments describe yourself in above average superficiality, then that's who you can expect to attract. A female version of you who is in 'awesome' shape, according to her, very successful, according to her, and no kids. Do you see anything missing in this picture? Kindness, intelligence, a sense of humor....
It's exactly like posters who come here explaining how much more intelligent they are than the average person. When one is intelligent, attractive, nice, funny, any characteristic that is desirable, they don't have to convince anyone, we can decipher all by ourselves! And the majority have decided your demonstration of arrogance and superficiality here certainly has to spill over at some rate into your personal interactions in real life. Not attractive.
Very well said. The best approach is to go about being yourself, and let others decide if you are successful, attractive, intelligent, funny, etc. Chances are some will think you are and some will think you're not. If you have to tell people that you are these things, though, most will think you're probably not. It has opposite of the intended effect, in other words. I guess in the social media age everyone is trying to market and brand themselves, but authenticity and humility are still more attractive to most, in my experience.
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