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Sure they can. But that's not this situation. She clearly is letting herself go, smashing pizzas regularly and refusing to work out or be active. All things that are extremely unattractive traits.
RedWings18, you really have no idea why this woman has gained weight, and that doesn't mean necessarily that she has "let herself go", or is "smashing pizzas regularly"...as I said before, you are making some pretty big assumptions about this issue. Weight gain/problems do not necessarily equal unattractive character traits...
If a woman gaining a little weight lessens your attraction to her....you couldn't have been that attracted to her in the first place. You were attracted to a screenshot in time and not the person.
Yeah, that was my reaction, too. I've never heard of a guy getting bored during sex, during foreplay, or any of it. Especially a guy in his 20's. OP, maybe you should check with your doctor, to make sure your T levels are ok. Also, consider finding a different job, one that doesn't stress you out every day. It doesn't really sound like you're enjoying life. Any chance you might have a low-level depression going on?
The whole thing is one big bore, from beginning to end, after about fifteen minutes tops. Always has been, always will be. Thank God for escorts and gradually diminishing testosterone now pushing 50. Can't wait until all that time wasting is done permanently, actually.
Bet I can find a whole forum full of people with differing POV, Ruth. To that I say: power to you, it's a free forum! Now you've heard of a second reasonably-normal guy saying the same thing, though I'm definitely a free spirit and uber-independent of unnecessary encumbrances. Oh, and your idea about screening OP for mild depressive symptoms is a great idea btw.
I somewhat respect a person in a "relationship" for three years who wants to salvage something via counseling, though I'm skeptical that's a road to wellness vs. a future trainwreck. I personally feel my gorge rise at the sight of them in my house after three months, nevermind years, but see earlier sentence about POV.
At about three months and one millisecond, I sit down with them (or they with me, seems about evenly split) and we have a nice chat about "It's not you, it's me" and "different goals" and "not gelling as well as we could long term." Who cares, same theme regardless, and all white lies in any case: the truth is one or the other just can't stand the sight anymore. And that's that, and usually good riddance end of the day. Always some other guy or gal out there.
Minority view? Certainly. Cutting bait? Oh, absolutely. Women getting jammed on for being "fat?" Seems to be lots of that going on in this thread too. I'm neutral, having dated thin and larger women: it's much more than that, attraction.
If a woman gaining a little weight lessens your attraction to her....you couldn't have been that attracted to her in the first place. You were attracted to a screenshot in time and not the person.
The whole thing is one big bore, from beginning to end, after about fifteen minutes tops. Always has been, always will be. Thank God for escorts and gradually diminishing testosterone now pushing 50. Can't wait until all that time wasting is done permanently, actually.
Bet I can find a whole forum full of people with differing POV, Ruth. To that I say: power to you, it's a free forum! Now you've heard of a second reasonably-normal guy saying the same thing, though I'm definitely a free spirit and uber-independent of unnecessary encumbrances. Oh, and your idea about screening OP for mild depressive symptoms is a great idea btw.
I somewhat respect a person in a "relationship" for three years who wants to salvage something via counseling, though I'm skeptical that's a road to wellness vs. a future trainwreck. I personally feel my gorge rise at the sight of them in my house after three months, nevermind years, but see earlier sentence about POV.
At about three months and one millisecond, I sit down with them (or they with me, seems about evenly split) and we have a nice chat about "It's not you, it's me" and "different goals" and "not gelling as well as we could long term." Who cares, same theme regardless, and all white lies in any case: the truth is one or the other just can't stand the sight anymore. And that's that, and usually good riddance end of the day. Always some other guy or gal out there.
Minority view? Certainly. Cutting bait? Oh, absolutely. Women getting jammed on for being "fat?" Seems to be lots of that going on in this thread too. I'm neutral, having dated thin and larger women: it's much more than that, attraction.
You've never been able to tolerate a gf beyond 3 months? WTH is going on with you?
And he knows this going in and doesn't warn them. So he's just a user, possibly a sociopath.
A user? A user who doesn't particularly enjoy sex after a 15-minute perfunctory go? (No wonder the women bail after a couple of months!) Who calls sex "time-wasting"? I can't even get my mind around this. What would he even be using them for, then? Temporary companionship that implodes after 3 months?
(Sorry BB--maybe TMI for Ruthie, lol)
The whole thing is one big bore, from beginning to end, after about fifteen minutes tops. Always has been, always will be. Thank God for escorts and gradually diminishing testosterone now pushing 50. Can't wait until all that time wasting is done permanently, actually.
At least you figured out that if you can't even handle 30 minutes of extended foreplay then you sure as hell can't handle even a FWB! Yup - a high class "escort" is perfect...just spare everyone the bother. Oh yeah, you could just get yourself a "fleshlight".
Well...to be fair, they've been together for 3 years, and he STILL hasn't managed to give her an orgasm yet. However, that hasn't stopped him from getting his release whenever they have sex. So...who's really boring who here?
Instead of complaining about his girl, I think the OP needs to accept some of the responsibility, as he obviously doesn't have mad skillz in the bedroom, or he would've been able to satisfy her as least once by now.
This is why I said it is a miracle she has not left him. It seems she has been trying to express herself and her needs although I cannot be 100% certain. If she has and it has been three years and he has not satisfied her, he is lucky she is still there at all. I would have left him after three times in bed. These two should part ways.
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