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I feel for you...it has to be horrible to try and date out there as a man.
I have a lack of options but at least the women in my area are real and have good values. They will give middle class or working class guys a chance.
With some of my friends their wife actually makes more than they do. You would think people in more progressive states wouldn't still be stuck on 1950's era gender roles. I don't know I guess they just like money out there :-/.
I'm a man over 35 but my standards are about the same as they always have been, other than the no kids requirement which naturally wasn't an issue when I was younger.
I don't get why women say they get pickier as they get older. That makes no sense, it's not like their market value goes up as they get older or something. Mens do not either unless he's loaded or is a 40 year old bodybuilder that looks 27 or something.
I think what most people mean is as they get older, things that didn't bother them or they overlooked when they were younger, now are going to be deal breakers as they get older. As someone mentioned earlier in the thread, things such as having a job, a place to stay, a car are things they may be picky over. And also as we get older and more established we realize that we want someone we WANT to be around, more so than need. Because we can take care of ourselves, most of us have friends to keep us company, whomever our mate is, would have to be someone that we really enjoy being around, instead of compromising on things, because we have to. And I don't see anything wrong with that.
I feel for you...it has to be horrible to try and date out there as a man.
I have a lack of options but at least the women in my area are real and have good values. They will give middle class or working class guys a chance.
With some of my friends their wife actually makes more than they do. You would think people in more progressive states wouldn't still be stuck on 1950's era gender roles. I don't know I guess they just like money out there :-/.
I'm a man over 35 but my standards are about the same as they always have been, other than the no kids requirement which naturally wasn't an issue when I was younger.
I don't get why women say they get pickier as they get older. That makes no sense, it's not like their market value goes up as they get older or something. Mens do not either unless he's loaded or is a 40 year old bodybuilder that looks 27 or something.
Men are usually smarter with money so as their wealth increases so does their value. Men's value has always been their wealth and ability to provide, not their beauty or fertility
I don't get why women say they get pickier as they get older. That makes no sense, it's not like their market value goes up as they get older or something. Mens do not either unless he's loaded or is a 40 year old bodybuilder that looks 27 or something.
Ah yes. The tired market value arguments. I worry about the market value of my house because I know that, sooner or later, I'm going to have to sell it. But when it comes to relationships, I always have the option of staying single. So even if someone like me is no longer in demand, I'm not going to lower my standards. And by the way, a lot women get pickier because they've been burned enough times and don't want to repeat those experiences.
I don't get why women say they get pickier as they get older. That makes no sense, it's not like their market value goes up as they get older or something. Mens do not either unless he's loaded or is a 40 year old bodybuilder that looks 27 or something.
Because when I was 20 I did not care if he lives in his parents basement, has a car, a job, is compatible or has the same values, clean, smokes, ... didn't care because I was easy going, didn't worry about retirement, future, children, genes, money, ... everything was different. As long as he was cute and liked me back, I didn't care about the rest because I was still developing and figuring stuff out. That's why I think people shouldn't get married in their early 20s. They are still not mature enough.
Things are getting more complicated by age. You develop standards. You learned from mistakes. You know what you want. You established your own life.
I think what most people mean is as they get older, things that didn't bother them or they overlooked when they were younger, now are going to be deal breakers as they get older. As someone mentioned earlier in the thread, things such as having a job, a place to stay, a car are things they may be picky over. And also as we get older and more established we realize that we want someone we WANT to be around, more so than need. Because we can take care of ourselves, most of us have friends to keep us company, whomever our mate is, would have to be someone that we really enjoy being around, instead of compromising on things, because we have to. And I don't see anything wrong with that.
I don't get why women say they get pickier as they get older. That makes no sense, it's not like their market value goes up as they get older or something. Mens do not either unless he's loaded or is a 40 year old bodybuilder that looks 27 or something.
I absolutely got pickier as I got older. I knew what was important, what I liked and what I disliked.
My market value didn't suffer at all when I started dating at 42. My "market value"
may have increased as I had a successful career and my own home.
The whole women lose market value as they get older is BS, it's what guys tell themselves so they will feel better.
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I absolutely got pickier as I got older. I knew what was important, what I liked and what I disliked.
My market value didn't suffer at all when I started dating at 42. My "market value"
may have increased as I had a successful career and my own home.
The whole women lose market value as they get older is BS, it's what guys tell themselves so they will feel better.
I think I meant pickier as in silly pickiness and nitpicking things. Like one of my guy friends is over 50 and he nitpicks the dumbest things about women. He's just getting old, set in his ways and has no patience.
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