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People who think that staying at home with the kids is "sitting on their butt" and other similar sentiments. It's hard work doing the stay at home thing running the house and dealing with a couple of kids. It's a full time job, you can't call in sick or whatever.
There are a lot of variables that go into this decision that some couples make, it's way more involved than someone just sitting on their ass all day watching soaps as some would tend to think.
Some of the people that say no in this thread, I don't think they realize just how hard it is being a SAHM/SAHD. Sometimes, it's harder and more exhausting than working a 40-45 hour job.
Just think of the laundry alone for say a family of 5.
Hell yeah. Mr.Mathlete took over laundry duty when I went back to work. Well, the washing and drying part; I put it all away. After the novelty wore off he was all "Man, this is a never ending chore!" Like I hadn't noticed, lol.
Nope, no way am I going to work while some guy stays at home.
But it would be ok if he went to work and you stayed home? He's not "some guy" and he's not just staying at home. He's the father of your kids, doing the housework, cleaning, cooking, food shopping, picking up/dropping off kids, getting them ready for school. Doing everything a SAHM does.
As long as everyone is happy with the arrangement and it's financially feasible, more power to those couples who can
Some of the people that say no in this thread, I don't think they realize just how hard it is being a SAHM/SAHD. Sometimes, it's harder and more exhausting than working a 40-45 hour job.
Exactly. My sister had 5 kids. I don't know how she did it. Her husband worked construction and when he came home, she had dinner waiting for him.
When I had my daughter, I extended my maternity, as we only had 6 weeks at the time. I took another 12 weeks and it was non-stop. Taking care of a baby, cooking, cleaning, laundry, food shopping, mixed in with changing diapers, bath time, barfing..by 9pm I felt like I had ran a marathon.
But it would be ok if he went to work and you stayed home? He's not "some guy" and he's not just staying at home. He's the father of your kids, doing the housework, cleaning, cooking, food shopping, picking up/dropping off kids, getting them ready for school. Doing everything a SAHM does.
As long as everyone is happy with the arrangement and it's financially feasible, more power to those couples who can
I'm all for having a spouse stay at home and take care of the children and household. It's not always feasible financially, but you have to remember too that day care costs and transportation and issues along those lines may or may not be worthwhile. I realize that this isn't just a financial decision but it's a reality. If you got a spouse not making a whole lot of money it just might not really be worth it. Plus to me it just feels better having family take care of kids. Again, the reality is for a lot of people that daycare is required.
I'm all for having a spouse stay at home and take care of the children and household. It's not always feasible financially, but you have to remember too that day care costs and transportation and issues along those lines may or may not be worthwhile. I realize that this isn't just a financial decision but it's a reality. If you got a spouse not making a whole lot of money it just might not really be worth it. Plus to me it just feels better having family take care of kids. Again, the reality is for a lot of people that daycare is required.
Oh, I completely agree. I ended up going back to work because I had to. At the time my daughter was born, we weren't making the salaries we do now so I had to work. I live in NYC so imagine the cost of daycare? My daughter is now 16 and back then we were paying $800 per month. My salary went to daycare with a little left over. His salary covered savings, rent and other expenses. My response to that poster was in regards to the comment "some guy staying at home".
I would have loved for my parents to watch her but they lived almost 30 minutes away and we both had to be at work by 8-8:30 so daycare close to home was our only solution. I'm all for whatever works best for families
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