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It doesn't matter how hot you are. I understand how his mind works, because I've done it.
If you're a man that has no real interest in settling down, loves the chase, and has plently of options, it won't matter how hot the girl is, he can easily create new options. It's a losing battle for a woman. There's not much you can do. He definitely thinks you're attractive enough to sleep with but that's about it.
This OP. There was a guy I met and he gave me all the attention like I never received. Once I reciprocated that interest directly to him, he lost interest. There was a period when I spent time wondering what went wrong, why did he lose interest all of a sudden? Was it something I said? Did he not like all the pores on my face up close? Nope. This guy is just a player and likes the chase. When I approached him, it was just a form of flattery for him, and that's all he wanted. Shortly after this, he's now chasing another young female doing the same exact tactics he used on me. I'm actually quite amused watching all this unfold before me. At least come up with something new to attract her?
This OP. There was a guy I met and he gave me all the attention like I never received. Once I reciprocated that interest directly to him, he lost interest. There was a period when I spent time wondering what went wrong, why did he lose interest all of a sudden? Was it something I said? Did he not like all the pores on my face up close? Nope. This guy is just a player and likes the chase. When I approached him, it was just a form of flattery for him, and that's all he wanted. Shortly after this, he's now chasing another young female doing the same exact tactics he used on me. I'm actually quite amused watching all this unfold before me. At least come up with something new to attract her?
After it's happened to you once, it's not hard to see that guys aren't very original. They do tend to use the same tactics and bring women to the same places. It's very amusing. You could go to a place on a Fri/Sat night he used to bring you and probably bump into him and a new date.
So one of my close friends saw him on Tinder, matched with him and talked to him (she knew it was him, I showed her a picture before) and he literally told her she is the first girl he has talked to on Tinder and isn't much into this app. Lol. I knew it!
Ok, so all the naysayers were right. I was wrong. Well, I was putting out hope where in reality no hope existed.
So how about a little revenge? Work something out with your friend. And let us know! Hey, some of us guys don't like to see our better sex being abused or used! Yeah. Some of us love and respect women. Not saying we don't want to get naughty - just that we respect you.
That was yesterday, is he responding now? Nope. Is he online on tinder? Yep.
Those distinct questions he asked you are probably his way to sound unique and different to stand out from the rest.
I know, I used to do that when I would use OLD.
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Huh? You can't even tell if someone is online on Tinder lol.
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He's on tinder, repeating the same exact conversations and lines he told you in hopes of sleeping with as much women as he can. It's a script.
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Don't think so. We talked every day for a month, and he didn't just ask me generic questions.
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I got a new funny update!
So one of my close friends saw him on Tinder, matched with him and talked to him (she knew it was him, I showed her a picture before) and he literally told her she is the first girl he has talked to on Tinder and isn't much into this app. Lol. I knew it!
Well well well.........do I at least get rep points for calling it all along???
And no you did NOT know, you were in denial when I told you so!!
The above response may have been crude, but first or third date, that is still too soon to be intimate with anyone in my eyes.
Take offense at the thought all you want, but the fact remains that many guys don't have favorable long term views of any woman that is 'easy' to get into bed. Guys like challenges and they like women that refuse to have sex so early. If women readily have sex so soon, what's to say they won't be doing that with another guy they just met? There is no challenge and no mystery and no sense of self control. Call it sexist or whatever all you want, but that's the plain honest truth.
The above response may have been crude, but first or third date, that is still too soon to be intimate with anyone in my eyes.
Take offense at the thought all you want, but the fact remains that many guys don't have favorable long term views of any woman that is 'easy' to get into bed. Guys like challenges and they like women that refuse to have sex so early. If women readily have sex so soon, what's to say they won't be doing that with another guy they just met? There is no challenge and no mystery and no sense of self control. Call it sexist or whatever all you want, but that's the plain honest truth.
And this goes both ways too for guys.
Maybe they would do it with another guy that early, maybe they wouldn't.
I don't really care. It wouldn't be a dealbreaker for me. Why even bother concerning yourself with that sort of thinking?
I would just assume she's really into me, which is a good thing, lol.
Also, if anything, it would mean that she desires and loves sex (another huge pro), and isn't playing this intentional game of waiting weeks till we do it.
Then again, I know I'm probably in the minority of guys that feel this way. I've never cared whatsoever about this whole challenge or mystery thing. It's just nonsense, in my opinion.
Btw, 3rd-4th date isn't that early to have sex.
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Nope. This guy is just a player and likes the chase. When I approached him, it was just a form of flattery for him, and that's all he wanted. Shortly after this, he's now chasing another young female doing the same exact tactics he used on me. I'm actually quite amused watching all this unfold before me. At least come up with something new to attract her?
