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It really depends. I've been married a while, but I know there were times when after one date, I was thinking "hell no". Many times, I could tell that there was so much first-date stress and awkwardness, that one more date would be necessary to feel things out - and sometimes, it did lead to something more, other times it didn't.
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For me, I tend to give a couple of dates unless the first date is just that bad and I have had first dates where I couldn't wait for it to be over. Plus I am sure some women have felt that way about me too. No harm, you like what you like and don't drag it out.
I will say this, if we end up going "Dutch" (which I believe in todays society we should, at least the first date), then I am more inclined to go on a second date with someone that I was on the fence with on a "one and done".
See if women were cool with doing Dutch the first couple of dates, I'd be inclined to give them another chance to present themselves. Since I get more side eyes than an eye doctor when I want to go Dutch, I'm going to be very conservative with who I give and how many dates I will give.
I’m not expecting perfection, just I see no reason to waste money or time on a second date if I’m not feeling that person in anyway. Off nights happen but I expect to endure consequences if that happens. Life is not sympathetic sometimes. Hell, last year I had a big job interview which clashed with the worst case of gas ever, as you can guess the interview was interrupted by that and no surprise I didn’t get the job. It sucks but you don’t get a second chance to make a first impression. If that impression sucks, sorry but it is life and if I have to make a decision of pursuing you and investing time and money into you, better believe you are going to get a rigorous evaluation.
It really depends.. Is she throwing out some serious red flags and deal-breakers? If yes, it'll be one and done and I'll tell her she's not my type. If I'm not interested after a 1st date that won't change with a 2nd one. No need to waste time when you know it isn't working..
It depends on the situation. If I just wasn't feeling it, then no, no 2nd date. If I kind of liked the guy, but he seemed nervous then I would give a 2nd chance.
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This thread has 36 responses and one from you so apparently so.
Right, but I was questioning the point and/or intent. But hey, if it makes you feel more empowered to proclaim that you will not give second chances to people you don't feel a connection with on a date, great. I guess I assumed everyone did that, and that a lack of chemistry was usual mutual.
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