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Depending on where the OP lives, by putting the cat in the shelter you are pretty much guaranteeing it will be killed. Depending on where. Like LA for example. Very over crowded shelters.
Bottom line it would be easier for him to rehome the op than the cat. Very few adult cats get adopted. It seems like an easy decision...
I have a cat allergy. One child and myself use inhalers, so I am aware of the cost. I also have a kid with a condition similar to leukemia. If I can manage to work full time and juggle an abundance of doctors appointments, I think the OP could manage if she wanted to offer the best solution without anyone losing their home. Or she could keep her happy butt at her own house...
Or she could keep her happy butt at her own house...
As you well know, people who think they are in love will live with all manner of offenses that other people not involved in the situation would call deal-breakers.
Not all sacrifices are equal. This has become a no-win situation.
As you well know, people who think they are in love will live with all manner of offenses that other people not involved in the situation would call deal-breakers.
Not all sacrifices are equal. This has become a no-win situation.
And as we all know, I don’t sacrifice. I would not rehome my child’s cat. I use to make my ex walk off our property to smoke because I hate the smell of cigarettes...
And as we all know, I don’t sacrifice. I would not rehome my child’s cat. I use to make my ex walk off our property to smoke because I hate the smell of cigarettes...
Ok, you don't sacrifice about cigarettes but you'd let him stay there without paying for anything. And so here we are.
It's easy to say she should keep her happy butt at her own house, but that won't be practical when they are married (which I feel certain they WILL go forward with since they've been together 5 years). And the guy can't just tell the kid to get rid of the cat because it makes the "new wife" sick. It's tricky. There's no easy solution.
Maybe this is his passive-aggressive way of doing so, or he could subconsciously not even want Op to move in.
OP would have to appear and update as to whether or not they are having issues lately, besides the cat.
That would be messed up if this was the fiances way to slowly avoid a wedding. Theyre only a month away.
She hasnt been on since last night, I hope she comes back with an update.
And as we all know, I don’t sacrifice. I would not rehome my child’s cat. I use to make my ex walk off our property to smoke because I hate the smell of cigarettes...
I'm going to guess your allergies are not severe. You come close to dying, your priorities will change.
You know what? This guy should have dumped her the minute she suggested getting rid of the cat.
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Maybe this is his passive-aggressive way of doing so, or he could subconsciously not even want Op to move in.
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OP would have to appear and update as to whether or not they are having issues lately, besides the cat.
That would be messed up if this was the fiances way to slowly avoid a wedding. Theyre only a month away.
She hasnt been on since last night, I hope she comes back with an update.
I don't see why other issues would even be necessary.
As for allergies, there's a few people here who insist they are experts on the subject and there aren't any options that will work. Well, we've had people with allergies come on here and state that there are working options. Of course the experts dismissed this by saying it must not be severe.
I'll say it once again: everybody reacts differently to allergy treatments. None of us (including the "experts") know how the OP will react. But it doesn't matter anyway because the OP isn't willing to try anything due to it being either too expensive or too time consuming. Instead, she'd rather get rid of their beloved family pet or lock him/her in the basement.
As for allergies, there's a few people here who insist they are experts on the subject and there aren't any options that will work. Well, we've had people with allergies come on here and state that there are working options. Of course the experts dismissed this by saying it must not be severe.
I'll say it once again: everybody reacts differently to allergy treatments. None of us (including the "experts") know how the OP will react. But it doesn't matter anyway because the OP isn't willing to try anything due to it being either too expensive or too time consuming. Instead, she'd rather get rid of their beloved family pet or lock him/her in the basement.
The pet has been there SIX MONTHS. She is extremely allergic. Best case scenario she might see some improvement from expensive biweekly shots in a year, but it isn’t going to cure her and it is going to be expensive and time consuming. Meanwhile she can stay in her own home right now and have absolutely no symptoms because the cat is not there. Who wants to sign themselves up for a life where they are going to have to give a lot of what they want to do as a result of numerous respiratory conditions related to a bad allergy when it is completely unneccesary to do so?
I am very allergic to dust. Here is what happens to me when I am exposed to dust. My skin starts to itch. I start to get all-over muscle pain and a migraine related to asthma (which is apparently not all that common), start to feel light headed/woozy. My throat starts to itch. My eyes water and often get bumps on them. If that was what I experienced around a cat, you can bet I’d tell someone to get rid of the six-month pet or put him in the basement. No thanks.
Wait to get married, another 15 -20 years, until the cat dies of old age.
My Mother had shots many years ago when I was a child. For her they were successful, but obviously the shots do not work for everyone. Personally I would try the shots, but postpone the wedding until I could determine if they were successful. If they didn't work I would tell my fiance that it's me or the cat.
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And so here we are.
