Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
it when guys ask you out on a date. I'm talking about if you don't know them. (not in a creepy way) And I don't mean like they've never seen you before. Say you've had a college course with them for a while, but never really had a chance to talk to them. Hey, it's hard to meet people in a class of 300+.
I'm not talking about walking and acting or saying something creepy. I'm also absolutely not talking about forming a commited relationship on the spot. Just asking out a girl out on a date.
I feel like I've made eyes or whatever with a few extremely attractive girls, but like I said a huge lecture hall is not a hot bed for socialising on any real level. Maybe it has to do with a lack of self confidence on my part, I dunno. But I know the social mores require the man make the first approach, so I respect that. I just want to know what you ladies feel about that.
Or I would like to know from guys who have success, or ended up looking like an ass clown from doing what I am asking about.
If I don't know the guy that well, I would feel more comfortable by him starting out by asking me out for coffee or a lunchdate. Or maybe getting together and discussing our mutual class... and actually sticking with the agenda and not groping me right away. But by him asking me out to coffee or even a study session, I would know that he liked me and wanted to get to know me better.
how about you:
1. "make eyes"
2. then "bump into them in the hall and say, "hi what did you think about ..." (something spoken of in the class)
3. repeat step 2 maybe 2 or 3 times, get a feel for the other person
4. ask them for coffee or something non commital\
5. ask them on a real date...
Just ask her. Don't try to be too cute with it. In my case, there was some mutual eye-contact/smiling at work (she was brand new) and one day, walking to the 7-11 next door, she was walking back--I simply said Hi, and said, almost verbatim, "Hey, I'm sorry to do this in a parking lot at work, but I was wondering if I could get your number, maybe give you a call, and see if we can set something up to get together." She laughed and said "Sure". Now, she gives me a bit of grief about asking her out in a parking lot, but I give it right back by saying it obviously worked.
When I think of the times I waited too long to ask someone, I wonder what might have been. In this case I decided that I'd rather know then wonder. If she said no, sure I'd have been in a bad mood for a bit, but that's better than spending weeks wondering.
This is going to sound terrible, but I would find it weird. I don't know why, but I would. I would want to at least know the person a little first before he just approached me and asked me out. I know you've seen her before, etc., but you know, that's almost even a bit weirder..."I've watched you from behind my desk a few hundred times and I thought I'd finally ask you out."
I mean, okay, I know that's not exactly how you'd put it.
Get to know her first, somehow. It's just best. Can you have a party or something that would draw a group of people? Something like that?
how about you:
1. "make eyes"
2. then "bump into them in the hall and say, "hi what did you think about ..." (something spoken of in the class)
3. repeat step 2 maybe 2 or 3 times, get a feel for the other person
4. ask them for coffee or something non commital\
5. ask them on a real date...
Hmmm, so four out of five say go for it. I think I'll devote a day to asking a bunch of girls out and hopefully four out of five will say yes. Ha
Ummm... as a woman, I'd say don't do it this way. I know that you are anxious to have a girlfriend, but at least ask out a girl that you really have a connection with and some common interests. If you ask her out based on random contact, you aren't going to get a girl that you are well matched with.
Or in other words, if I were single, I would not run around randomly asking guys out. I need a guy that has the right personality, smarts, common interests and the same outlook on life. And that guy is more like one in a thousand for me, not four out of five guys saying yes to my asking them out for coffee.
In a situation like you're talking about, not knowing her well but have a class together, I would feel better if we found somewhere and talked a little bit. Maybe a 30 minute coffee date or something like that. If things go well, ask her for another date.
Please register to post and access all features of our very popular forum. It is free and quick. Over $68,000 in prizes has already been given out to active posters on our forum. Additional giveaways are planned.
Detailed information about all U.S. cities, counties, and zip codes on our site: City-data.com.
Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
I need a guy that has the right personality, smarts, common interests and the same outlook on life. And that guy is more like one in a thousand for me, not four out of five guys saying yes to my asking them out for coffee.
