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If you loved your SO and you believe they do too, would you leave them if they had a habit of lying about certain things, such as money? Would it make a difference if both don't live together? Even if the lying has no direct impact on you, does it make them less reliable overall or worse (a bad person, etc.)?
If you loved your SO and you believe they do too, would you leave them if they had a habit of lying about certain things, such as money? Would it make a difference if both don't live together? Even if the lying has no direct impact on you, does it make them less reliable overall or worse (a bad person, etc.)?
What if you can "justify" their lying - for example, they may be too ashamed to tell you the truth? But they have promised in the past not to lie and while they seem to lie less, you still catch them lying about the same thing?
What if you can "justify" their lying - for example, they may be too ashamed to tell you the truth? But they have promised in the past not to lie and while they seem to lie less, you still catch them lying about the same thing?
It’s a matter of respect.
They don’t respect you. They don’t respect themselves.
When I catch him in the lies, he says I lie to him and my adult son - in particular, I do downplay my relationship with my SO b/c my son feels uncomfortable about him and with him; so I don't share much information with my son and when asked by my SO, I leave the answers brief. Not sure how this "justifies" his lying over and over and despite him telling me he won't do it again.
When I catch him in the lies, he says I lie to him and my adult son - in particular, I do downplay my relationship with my SO b/c my son feels uncomfortable about him and with him; so I don't share much information with my son and when asked by my SO, I leave the answers brief. Not sure how this "justifies" his lying over and over and despite him telling me he won't do it again.
Guess what - "downplaying" your relationship is dishonest as well. So now YOU are lying too, to your own son. smh
Do you enjoy "catching" him in his lies? Is it a game for you? Or do you think so little of yourself that you figure this is the best you can get.
All in all, it just makes you look like an idiot for tolerating it.
Obviously no one likes lying or being lied to. But if his lies protect him from feeling inferior in someway, then I can empathize a bit. I'm not saying you should condone lying though, but if you otherwise care for him, you might want to understand root cause.
It makes me mad and then it makes me really sad....I keep trusting him b/c I know we love each other and enjoy our company together but then you're right, I look like an idiot for tolerating this.
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