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Originally Posted by ThisTown123
Right, but.... men are men, regardless...getting your male room mate all horned up whilst discussing your deep sex life with him will result in consequences such as what happened here.
Not sure of the outcome, did she move out of the apartment? lol
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Dude.
I have discussed my sex life, albeit with an attempt at diplomatic or clinical terms usually, with YOU. Do you think I was "teasing" you in some way?
I've had conversations with men about my sex life, too, in real life contexts, without it feeling flirtatious or like they were taking it as anything but conversation. Now granted there's such a thing as "reading the room" with who you're talking to. But one time I was bored waiting for my car to get worked on, and ended up in a conversation about relationships, sex, even kink, with the owner of the shop for over 2 hours! (We were the only ones in the room, and I had the feeling that he appreciated a diversion from his boring workday.)
I guess part of my thought that I don't assume it's teasing, is that I don't assume that any given man is even into me. Some are, some aren't. Even when I was 18-20 years old and arguably pretty hot, at the TIME I didn't have the ego to think that "duh of course a guy would get horned up and want to get with you." I figured they were capable of being part of a conversation about something without expecting something from it.
I mean hell, I can talk about food I'm craving but don't have in the kitchen, without throwing a fit about it, or what I'd do if I had a million dollars even though I likely never will... The notion of, "No fair making me think about something I might want if I can't have it!" seems very immature, even assuming that some guy does, and not being a mind reader, how would I even know? Especially if he's acting like a "friend" but silently hoping to game his way into my bed.
But back to my earlier thought...it's kind of all about boundaries, no? KNOWINGLY crossing other people's boundaries is jerky. But I do think that in general there are a lot of situations where one might be forgiven for not knowing that a boundary is there. When the woman in your story told the guy that he was being creepy, if he's being clever he could have said, "Uh huh, crossed a boundary, did I? Well, just so you're aware, this whole conversation was kinda crossing my boundaries. Let's not do this again. Thanks."