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This is such a mess. You assumed things had worked out and you were forgiven without ever actually working things out together and having her explicitly forgive you? That's not how any of this works. Why she's stuck around in the intervening years is kind of a mystery, here.
Yes I assumed things were worked out because it wasn't mentioned after a while. I thought she was happy again, that she was ok in the relationship. Unless there were signs she was still hurt and it can be hard reading them.
It's good she told me everything that's been bothering her ever since the terrible prank.
I think I know the answer to her question of why I was very elaborated and creative on the fake proposal but couldn't do the same with my real proposal. The prank proposal wasn't really my own creativity nor words. I also copied the presentation from someone else's video. I had practically memorized most of the script from several videos. I had practiced it in front of the mirror several times till getting it right. My real proposal is my original self and how I feel without a script to follow, I love her and she's the love of my life.
If I was wouldn't a diagnose had been made long ago at school? I still graduated from college with a good 3.6 GPA, have friends, work full time as a supervisor, own a house and do normal functions.
OP - i hate to break it to you but most of the “pranks” on YouTube are staged. Few if any guys are actually doing fake proposals. I cannot imagine the cruelty of doing such a thing. In my younger days, I put up with a lot of crap from guys but if somebody had done that to me I would have dropped him like a hot potato and never spoken to him again.
OP - i hate to break it to you but most of the “pranks” on YouTube are staged. Few if any guys are actually doing fake proposals. I cannot imagine the cruelty of doing such a thing. In my younger days, I put up with a lot of crap from guys but if somebody had done that to me I would have dropped him like a hot potato and never spoken to him again.
I've learnt the hard way; being distrusted and not believed when it was real until she saw the receipt.
As a fresh start, we're going out on a date tomorrow. I'll never be late again on anything. I'm working on proving her I can be the man she would've said yes. I'm ready whenever she is. I would mean a lot just to hear her say yes to me again (her first yes on the horrible prank) on my real proposal. I really hope we can one day get past this.
OP - It sounds like you may need the one to get past this and move on. Let her move on as well. Maybe that's why this prank happened so you can both go your own ways.
Sounds like marriage is the last thing to think about, may be better to take time and work with a counselor and find out what is going on with you.
Last edited by bellamax2; 09-18-2022 at 02:40 PM..
Two years from last you made a faux pas.
Dang that lady can hold a grudge.
Step back , both of you.
Stop groveling. You stated your regret back then. If she wishes to keep it in her arsenal, that's on her. I just wouldn't sit by to watch her toss a few guilt comments your way.
The date went good and she preferred going to the park to talk about things than going to the movies. I lost track of how many times I've expressed remorse and apologized for my past actions by now. I meant it all from the heart. Once she was done stating her views, I let her know that I'm there for her and to give me this chance to start again, to show her I can be the trustful, realiable, mature man. Like mentioned, for now she just wants me to refer to her as my gf, said he still loves me but wants to feel secure.
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Originally Posted by Nov3
Two years from last you made a faux pas.
Dang that lady can hold a grudge.
Step back , both of you.
Stop groveling. You stated your regret back then. If she wishes to keep it in her arsenal, that's on her. I just wouldn't sit by to watch her toss a few guilt comments your way.
It was really all my fault. The distrust, her hesitation and my proposal getting put on hold are all consequences of how I had behaved in the past. I don't blame her one bit, none.
Two years from last you made a faux pas.
Dang that lady can hold a grudge.
Step back , both of you.
Stop groveling. You stated your regret back then. If she wishes to keep it in her arsenal, that's on her. I just wouldn't sit by to watch her toss a few guilt comments your way.
I think most people would argue that an elaborate fake proposal is more than a “faux pas” and is a cruel thing to do to someone. It also seems like he is still not paying his bills on time, so that could continue to be a legitimate issue. He may just need to let this woman go, straighten up his life, and start fresh with someone else without the pranks and other nonsense like being late, etc.
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