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Does the 27 year old want to get married? If so, you need to be honest. You are not ready to settle on one woman, and she needs to know that, so she doesn’t waste her time with you.
You go be George Clooney, and hope you don’t have regrets about the one that got away.
At 20 years old, the younger one isn't fully grown yet. By that I mean that she's still deciding what she wants out of life and all. That's fine for a short-term relationship but the long-term is more important IMO.
Tim Allen said that when you get married, you should put a jar next to your bed. Every time you have sex, put in a penny. Do that for one year. After that first year, every time you have sex you should take a penny out. You will never empty the jar.
Tim Allen said it but I don't know if he made it up. That's just where I heard it. But that sounds about right. Lust can run hot for even a year, maybe, but then it becomes common, few surprises, routine, not nearly as exciting as it was initially. You can spice it up now and then but really, you still have several hours of the day to fill. If sex is the main thing, the relationship won't last. Sometimes that's fine. If you're looking for long term though, keep it in mind.
Considering that we just had a thread dozens of pages long about the morality of an older person dating a 20 year old the timing of this thread is suspicious. Nonetheless, even if just a creative writing exercise, this story is a good example of one of the pitfalls of promiscuity for people of either gender. An otherwise excellent match becomes boring because it gets compared to some sport sex you had in your wild phase and found wanting. You should try to be an adult about it in a scenario like this, and either let your current partner go out of respect or find a way to live discretely with the ghosts of hookups past that will always haunt your bedroom. Perhaps an exorcism would help.
Let’s see…you’re ready to throw away a relationship with a woman who is seemingly perfect for a romp in the hay with a 20 year old you admit you know little about except she gets your motor running. You deserve what you get.
You CAN control your urges you know. I guess the question is...will you? And clearly, you're waffling. That's a shame. Seemed like you had a good thing going with the other lady. Well, like Okey Dokie said, you deserve what you get.
Is this a guy thing? Because as a woman I can't relate. You find love and compatibility, but can't stop thinking about someone else who's "better" in bed? I mean, what makes her "better"? I would think sex would be "better" with someone you are in love with but what do I know? Men are mysterious yet simple creatures.
Is this a guy thing? Because as a woman I can't relate. You find love and compatibility, but can't stop thinking about someone else who's "better" in bed? I mean, what makes her "better"? I would think sex would be "better" with someone you are in love with but what do I know? Men are mysterious yet simple creatures.
There are many women out there who have ruined an otherwise good relationship for another guy just because he was great in bed. I think you meant to say "as zentropa I can't relate" instead of "as a woman". And yes...people, not just men, can be simple creatures.
I don't know, I guess I would advise is to think on how you would feel if you moved ahead, broke up with your GF, resumed the sexual relationship, and after a month how would you feel? The 20 year old will get a BF of her own at some point.
If you are comfortable with envisioning the above, then break up, you may not be ready for an actual relationship. There is nothing wrong with that, and you can't stay in a relationship you aren't really into.
You may want to get some counseling so you know WHY your emotions are kinda going in a direction you do not want (if that is the case).
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Some people need a period of sport sex in their life.
Especially after a divorce.
The OP sounds like he does.
(...speaking from experience...)
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