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Has any heterosexuals actually met anyone from the craigslist casual encounter's section?
Gay men seem very comfortable finding each other for sex without strings. But because gender imbalance is so great between men looking for sex without strings and women looking for sex without strings I just assumed that those women willing to do it, would be charging for it.
It actually suprises me that there are women on craigslist who are doing it for free. I just figured the ads were from hooker's hoping to upsell you later.
You learn something new every day.
God I hope so... I'm getting on craig'slist now... I'll tell ya what happens!
I hate the angle shot. If the only picture a woman will show is one where she's holding the camera over her head and looking up, I just assume she weighs at least 200 pounds.
What's funny is when they have like 20 of those photos in their profile.
I think the ones that just come out and show "hey I'm fat", that doesn't bother me as much or the ones that make it obvious they are a little curvy, which is fine by me.
What's funny is when they have like 20 of those photos in their profile.
I think the ones that just come out and show "hey I'm fat", that doesn't bother me as much or the ones that make it obvious they are a little curvy, which is fine by me.
I can't quite picture what these photos you're talking about look like and how they're taken...
It seems clearer and clearer to me that a lot of girls (not all, because some have posted to the contrary) don't want to fess up about their power advantages over guys in general in the US.
This comes off of the prositution thread a little... i.e. countries like germany where prositution has been legal for years..
(it's like the internet porn, craigs list casuals, is like the truth,
but everyone lives a lie during the day) the hypocrisy is intoxicating
Some guys on here 'think' they are picking up girls. Nope.
Women are making that decision. Always have.
You see, when guys who just want sex (and believe me there are plenty of them) realize that prostitution, casual ecounters etc. is a healthy answer. A huge negative rift and social power imbalance between the sexes in the US will just dissappear. It would be simple. Guys would know where to go to get it without shame attatched or other legal negative consequences. (notice all the shame she attached to the dude 'insane!') And women would not be able to call these naturally horny men all the endless belittling crap just because they are normal healthy men who simply want to have sex.
but this post won't change anything , women will still continue bashing guys for being guys 'dogs' as they put it in the US, and men will continue being belittled and will spew idealized crap about how to meet women etc. etc. as an effort to save face when the fact is is that they were lucky to be 'chosen' by their girlfriend
Dudes, wake up
yes yes yes, flames i know
I have to agree with your point. I've spent a lot of time in Australia and NZ where brothels are legal and readily available and certainly it takes a lot of wind out of the womens sails with that on hand. So yes it could be a reason why the women down there don't play the sex control game and other hysterics and dramas the American women have in general.
Not really a fan though of prostitution as I think some of the women can be badly affected by it.
However, there is a difference to meeting someone in person....I talked to a seemingly nice guy online and agreed to meet for coffee. In person, I got the creeps from him. I could sense something wrong and my instinct said not to see him again. He already had my phone number though, and proceeded to harass me for the next several months until I broke down and changed my number. Had I met him in person, I would've never given him my phone number, as my instinct said "run!" in his presence.
Yikes.
That is why I am reticent about online dating as previously in my life I had to deal with two stalker type situations, never of whom I had never expressed any interest in or were ever involved with. My instincts are pretty good, but what if I meet someone who did turn out creepy? I don't want to go through what I went though before.
I can't quite picture what these photos you're talking about look like and how they're taken...
I call it the myspace chubby shot. It's when you hold the camera directly over your head and look up and snap a photo. It hides your true figure and stretches your face to look thinner.
It seems clearer and clearer to me that a lot of girls (not all, because some have posted to the contrary) don't want to fess up about their power advantages over guys in general in the US.
This comes off of the prositution thread a little... i.e. countries like germany where prositution has been legal for years..
(it's like the internet porn, craigs list casuals, is like the truth,
but everyone lives a lie during the day) the hypocrisy is intoxicating
Some guys on here 'think' they are picking up girls. Nope.
Women are making that decision. Always have.
You see, when guys who just want sex (and believe me there are plenty of them) realize that prostitution, casual ecounters etc. is a healthy answer. A huge negative rift and social power imbalance between the sexes in the US will just dissappear. It would be simple. Guys would know where to go to get it without shame attatched or other legal negative consequences. (notice all the shame she attached to the dude 'insane!') And women would not be able to call these naturally horny men all the endless belittling crap just because they are normal healthy men who simply want to have sex.
but this post won't change anything , women will still continue bashing guys for being guys 'dogs' as they put it in the US, and men will continue being belittled and will spew idealized crap about how to meet women etc. etc. as an effort to save face when the fact is is that they were lucky to be 'chosen' by their girlfriend
Dudes, wake up
yes yes yes, flames i know
A lot of the stuff you say, I either agree with or at least find humorous. But I don't actually think women do have a power advantage over men.
Guys have a biological drive to get laid, but women seem to have a biological drive to procreate and that causes them to get much more attached to men.
What I have noticed in relationships is that before a woman agrees to sleep with you, she is looking for reasons to not date you to rationalize to herself why she is a discriminating individual who isn't a ****. But after you sleep with a woman, a woman will rationalise that same behavior as a sacrafice she made for love or in the name of developing this relationship.
So while a woman might not want to date you if you are unemployed (because she tells herself that she has high standards). If you lose your job that same woman will pay your rent (I want to be a supportive of you and our relationship in a time of difficulty).
In general this is the reason I always think it is as important to sleep with a woman as soon as possible. Because there is a lot of stuff she will rationalise after she has agreed to sleep with you than she would dump you for if you told her before you slept with her. So I generally want a woman to get to know me only after I have slept with them.
But modernly women are quite willing to have sex with you quite quickly. It can be as little as dinner and bottle of wine or just drinks. Once you have slept with then she is totally up for doing it again and again. They want to make you happy.
Women really aren't actually that discriminating. They will tell you their problems and you don't actually have to do anything about them to fix them. Mostly they just want you to listen to them. Maybe offer to hold them, but then you are mostly off scott free and they think you are somehow quite sensitive particularly when you don't try to fix their problems.
But they really want to do stuff for you. They will feed you, clean your place, do your laundry, go shopping for you, buy clothes for you. That nesting urge is that strong. I never ask women to do this stuff for me, but that domestic urge is just really strong in women where they do it anyways.
That is why I disagree with your claim that women have power over men. They act as gatekeeper's intially when it comes to sex, but innately they want a guy to run the show.
But they really want to do stuff for you. They will feed you, clean your place, do your laundry, go shopping for you, buy clothes for you. That nesting urge is that strong. I never ask women to do this stuff for me, but that domestic urge is just really strong in women where they do it anyways.
That is why I disagree with your claim that women have power over men. They act as gatekeeper's intially when it comes to sex, but innately they want a guy to run the show.
I think despite all this feminism BS, men are still men and women women. Men are always outwardly looking which I think dates back to the dawn of time as being the hunters and protectors and women inwardly looking to tribal dynamics and relationships and being the gatherers and nesters. And I find with women is that they like men with a plan and they really do want us to take the lead and run the show.
A battle scared friend of mine told me once he had a woman tell him she was leaving him because he was too equatable. That he needed to be a man and "take" a woman, not just be okay whatever you want to do. I notice with women anytime I am unsure about something or try to put the decision for something in their hands, they lose interest quickly.
I had to learn that with dating especially the first date. It's fine to find out what they like/dislike, but to put the decision as what to do in their hands is fatal. Especially on the "first date". They hate it. If I ask someone out for the first time, I already know where we are going and what we are doing. Since I took that tact a few years ago, I have rarely failed to snag at least a first date.
And I would agree about the domestic side of things and I have found just being complimentary and appreciative I can pretty much get anything I want.
Edwardius and Wannero... reps for both of you. I honestly, whole heartedly agree.
I want a "take charge" type man, but I do not have it. I lose interest quickly if I don't have it, and I get unexpectly frustrated with men that I think should or would be the take charge type that don't (they have a personality trait that indicates they are a take charge type). I have the urge to do domestic duties for a man and have done the cleaning, the shopping, the buying, or whatever without expecting anything of it. Not because I actively *try* to do this, but because it comes to me naturally. I do it without even realizing that I do it, and I tend to try to take on a care taking role even if I don't need to. I put my trust into the men I think are listening when I have something to say -I don't need them to fix my problems, I just need a sound board and sometimes some advice.
So yeah.. you both hit it.
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