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Old 01-08-2009, 07:21 PM
 
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Why did you marry her? If you are sneaking into the other room to post negative comments about your spouse on city-data, well that is not a good sign.
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Old 01-08-2009, 07:46 PM
 
Location: Center of the universe
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Anybody married to someone who is never wrong (in their mind).

My wife is someone who thinks she is never wrong. Everything gets twisted back to me. So I am to the point where I don't even bring anything up anymore.

It is not my nature to argue. and not a very good arguer anyway. So it just builds up, and that isn't healthy.

If you are in this situation, how the heck do you handle someone like this. Issues need to be discussed, not twisted.
You're a guy. You are married. Ergo, you are always wrong. Did you miss that lecture in guy training?
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Old 01-08-2009, 07:53 PM
 
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You're a guy. You are married. Ergo, you are always wrong. Did you miss that lecture in guy training?
You are a very wise man
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Old 01-08-2009, 07:59 PM
 
Location: Arkansas
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I am married to a man that does not always think that he is right but he does not like to admit openly when he is wrong and it usually turns into some kind of joke!
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Old 01-08-2009, 08:00 PM
 
Location: Tucson
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You're a guy. You are married. Ergo, you are always wrong. Did you miss that lecture in guy training?
He must've! Do you wanna be right or do you wanna be happy and have sex...?!
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Old 01-09-2009, 11:23 AM
 
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I am married to a man that does not always think that he is right but he does not like to admit openly when he is wrong and it usually turns into some kind of joke!

My husbands the same we've been together for over 14 years and I could count the number of times he's ever apologized... depending on the situation I sometime let him believe he's right and still do what I have to do... then other times I have to make him see my point . and then there's those very rare occasions that he's right .


The only thing to do is talk about it- no one ever said two individuals with thier own minds and feeling where going to agree on every point...
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Old 01-09-2009, 11:40 AM
 
Location: The #1 sunshine state, Arizona.
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I always say, "I was looking for Dr Wright but ended up with Mr. Always Right!"
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Old 01-09-2009, 12:05 PM
 
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Anybody married to someone who is never wrong (in their mind).

My wife is someone who thinks she is never wrong. Everything gets twisted back to me. So I am to the point where I don't even bring anything up anymore.

It is not my nature to argue. and not a very good arguer anyway. So it just builds up, and that isn't healthy.

If you are in this situation, how the heck do you handle someone like this. Issues need to be discussed, not twisted.
I left him....
awful person to be around....negative, argumentative and manipulative.
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Old 01-09-2009, 12:37 PM
 
Location: USA
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Early in my marriage, we used to argue a lot more. In hindsight, I see that it was partly my fault. I just didn't understand my husband well enough. We would start arguing about something and it would go on and on, both of us repeating our points and and it would escalate and feelings would get hurt.

Now, if I bring up a topic that I know we will not agree on, I do one of two things: I either say, "Well, we are not going to agree on this. Let's not beat it to death." and change the subject.

The other thing I do is to bring a topic up, list my reasons and point of view and then DROP IT. Many times he has come back later to say that after THINKING ABOUT IT, he does agree with me.

The thing that I didn't understand about him was that he is the type that needs time to look at something from all angles and ponder it. Also, this gives him the opportunity to 'save face' because he isn't put in the position to back down from a heated screaming match and admit he was wrong. (Honestly, has anybody ever done that? You are so busy making your point and being mad at the other person, you aren't really even listening to them). Now, don't get me wrong, he doesn't always come around to my way of thinking, but our arguments have been drastically reduced.

For years I thought my husband was one of these "always right" people, when actually, I just hadn't learned how to deal with him.

Good luck!
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Old 01-09-2009, 01:06 PM
 
Location: Mayberry
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Just start saying, "You're right!" all the time and see what happens
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