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Wow, as I don't mingle with such crowds, I'm really surprised to hear all that. Haven't people heard of protection and abortion in this neck of the woods...?!
I think you're right about it being a major step for young guys. Many of them aren't emotionally or financially mature to care for a kid yet. It's no big deal; you can't expect a guy in his early 20s to suddenly take on a kid if he's not ready.
Hmmm....thats an excellent comment. When I was last available around age 24 I would have had a hard time with single moms. After I had been married with kids a while...no problem.
WOW! I was a young single mom. I did marry what I thought was my high school sweetheart and it turned out to be a living nightmare! When I left, I made a point not to depend on anyone else for help financially and the guys that I did date for the duration of my single 4 years, I made a point to announce up front that I was not looking for anything serious, nor was I looking for a handout. I never introduced any of those men to my daughter so it was never an issue.
I think that the scenerio of dating a single mom all depends on what the guy is looking for and the woman for that matter. Again, when I was dating I wanted nothing serious. When I was ready to get serious, my plan changed. I had guys tell me that they would not date a single mom (during the time that I decided to start being serious about dating men) and that was fine. I would rather people be honest and upfront from the beginning than lie and then walk away.
But the reason I say all of this is because not all single moms are looking for a fill-in dad. During the time that I was a single mom, for four years of that time, I was simply looking for someone that I could hang out with occasionally, have fun with and have sex with every now and again. No strings attached. I was not looking for a 'baby daddy' and I did not have the time or the energy to put into a full time relationship. Everyone's motives are different and if a single mom is not your thing then that's fine, but understand that not all single moms are looking to be swept up and not all single moms are looking at the guys that they are dating as potential fathers.
for the OP, would you rather date a woman in her 30s who can pass for late 20s with no kids, or someone closer to your age with a kid or two? Question for anyone really, just curious. (assuming similar looks, personality, intelligence etc.)
There are a ridiculous number of unmarried mothers in their mid-20's these days.
Just like young men (boys actually) who think they will live forever, and take crazy risks, most young women think they will be "hot" forever. All that attention when they are 18, 19 and 20 has them believing it will never end. They want to get the best from the gene pool for their progeny and believe that if he doesn't work out, there are always the 10 they turned down, waiting for their chance. Many then decide to be more discriminating the second time out, holding out for the the stud who also has a job! "My next husband will be just like my last" I overheard one say "but he'll have money this time!" The murmurs of agreement, among here coworker/peers, spoke volumes.
Eventually they will settle for the money but this only goes to a few lucky ones. Sort of like the one criminal who takes the deal from the police for a reduced sentence. Do it soon and do it first since the opportunity is fleeting.
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