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I'm a single woman in her 20s and I don't have any kids either. Of course, where I am that's a bit rare. My best friend literally just got married last year and had her second baby a few days ago. I think a lot of this does depend on where you are. But one thing I can't stand is this back and forth.
We can't win in this forum.
If she is a single mother, she has bad judgement, baggage, and she's damaged goods.
If she hits a certain age and is not in a relationship and doesn't have kids, she's constantly reminded that she's getting older and her "clock is ticking."
If she likes sex, she's loose and promiscuous. If she isn't very sexually active, she's a prude.
Just to name a few, at some point it makes you want to say EFF this. It's really amazing sometimes. Watch someone is going to pop up, deflect, and dismiss everything I'm saying.
Anything can happen to people.
I used to live in another state. I casually knew a guy from the gym who did something with cell phone towers for a living, and was married with a couple of kids. He was killed in a graphic workplace accident that made local news. I don't think anyone would begrudge her or not be understanding if they knew the story about how she was widowed.
At least to me, good job, not in a relationship, and no kids is a net positive. I don't mind others' kids (think 7+) that are old enough to reason, but I don't want babies or toddlers. Now that I'm 32, it's fairly common for women my age to have middle schoolers or older. I might be OK with that as long as they didn't want more kids.
If you live in a major coastal city with people that are career driven, it's unlikely many will be having kids in their 20s, and the dating pool is just better overall.
I live in Fort Lauderdale, and this is not the case. I am in fact having the same problem.
I assume this phenomenon is directly related to the decline of societal pressure to marry. People used to get married right out of high school (poor and woring classes primarily) or college (middle and upper classes usually). It was like a rule. If you didn't people would look at you funny, assume immaturity of the men and spinsterhood of the women. Then they had pressure to stay married or risk the "scandal" of divorce. As screwed up as this system was it did provide coverage for all the kids born during the fertile years.
Now people are still having all the same amount of sex in their late teens and twenties (because they're still human LOL) but without all the stable marriages to handle the inevitable kids. Birth control is great but we know people are illogical and won't always use it correctly and certianly not every single time.
TL: DR - people in this age range are always going to have lots of sex, pregancies will inevitably happen even because people aren't perfect with birth control, and young people are no longer getting/staying married so now we have the phenomenon of young, dating single moms. The end.
It’s simple she wants kids -normal is to find a guy with a big fat pay check and then marry him
But 42 million divorces later guys are a bit gun shy
Anticipation of maybe being able to earn enough on her own makes her go forward with the kid thing that and a very affluent economy
60 years ago she would not do this- bad financial move
I'm a single woman in her 20s and I don't have any kids either. Of course, where I am that's a bit rare. My best friend literally just got married last year and had her second baby a few days ago. I think a lot of this does depend on where you are. But one thing I can't stand is this back and forth.
We can't win in this forum.
If she is a single mother, she has bad judgement, baggage, and she's damaged goods.
If she hits a certain age and is not in a relationship and doesn't have kids, she's constantly reminded that she's getting older and her "clock is ticking."
If she likes sex, she's loose and promiscuous. If she isn't very sexually active, she's a prude.
Just to name a few, at some point it makes you want to say EFF this. It's really amazing sometimes. Watch someone is going to pop up, deflect, and dismiss everything I'm saying.
No, I agree with you. lol I can say from my own perspective, I don’t have kids and have never had problems meeting men online who don’t have kids. I wouldn’t have even considered a guy with kids in my 20s, and even now well into my 30s, I’m not dating men with kids. I can actually only recall one who had a kid unless I’m forgetting the others. So if all these single women with kids exist, I’m somehow not finding it all that hard to avoid these men who fathered the kids. (Maybe it’s because I don’t date older men?)
To the OP, if there are too many single women in their 20s with kids, what is the correct #. We apparently need to set goals so we can tell woman # X that she can't have a child. Because that would work.
I don't think that all guys shy from women with kids. Have a neighbor, he made tons of money selling a computer company, met a woman with 3 kids, she was slinging cocktails in Vegas.. He liked her big smile and bigger boobs and put a ring on her. She got the last laugh I guess, she's living the life not working, spending money...
I don't think that all guys shy from women with kids. Have a neighbor, he made tons of money selling a computer company, met a woman with 3 kids, she was slinging cocktails in Vegas.. He liked her big smile and bigger boobs and put a ring on her. She got the last laugh I guess, she's living the life not working, spending money...
Men and boobs... I’m guilty myself of appreciating a nice set, authentic or not.
Men and boobs... I’m guilty myself of appreciating a nice set, authentic or not.
Strictly OEM equipment, no aftermarket gear for me.
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