What Is Love?

[ExPit]

Originally Posted by sierraAZ

I don't know... It sounds like you're like me - not very good at closing doors completely and moving on. One door took me good 13 years, 10 of them of no contact whatsoever. The last meeting was like the one I was talking about above - I finally shut that door forever, I think... Yeah, I'm pretty sure it's forever.

I believe living too much in the past and revisiting memories is not beneficial. It prevents us from enjoying the present and moving on to the future. It's very heavy baggage dragging us down and making us not completely emotionally available. That's one of the reasons I believe in marrying somewhat young and hopefully staying together. Having had too many people in your life is emotionally taxing.

That would explain why I'm such a wreck. No, not really, not that much of a wreck, and I haven't had too many people in my life, not lately anyway. I do have a problem with not being able to walk away from people though, especially when they need me for one reason of another. And this girl is going through something pretty heavy at the moment. Nothing I can directly effect, if I could I would, but no doubt, that was one of the reasons why she contacted me in the first place. The other was she'd heard my mother passed, and they were close; also her mother passed around the same time as mine did and so she's dealing with this on top of her other more pressing issue. We're reaching out to each other at a time when we're both hurting, and even though it only feels right, I know it could lead to trouble. I've told my wife about it and I don't delete our emails so she can read them if she wants. To my knowledge she hasn't yet, but I don't know for sure.

[sierraAZ]

Originally Posted by ExPit

We're reaching out to each other at a time when we're both hurting, and even though it only feels right, I know it could lead to trouble.

It can... and it might...

[bmwguydc]

Sometimes the most important form of love is love for oneself. It's not selfish to remove yourself from a potentially damaging situation, and to look out for one's own best interests. All too often, many people forget themselves when it comes to love, and one can still be selfless, but respect what is possible in a situation.

There are many other forms of love, however, and degrees to which one has an affinity can be gauged, since some are deeper, some have more passion, but all hold true to the fact that therein lies a profound connection with another being. True love is a gift that should be given and received with respect.

[ExPit]

Originally Posted by bmwguydc

Sometimes the most important form of love is love for oneself. It's not selfish to remove yourself from a potentially damaging situation, and to look out for one's own best interests. All too often, many people forget themselves when it comes to love, and one can still be selfless, but respect what is possible in a situation.

There are many other forms of love, however, and degrees to which one has an affinity can be gauged, since some are deeper, some have more passion, but all hold true to the fact that therein lies a profound connection with another being. True love is a gift that should be given and received with respect.

Such a great way to put it. Thanks.

[cremebrulee]

Originally Posted by sierraAZ

I'm not sure if we fall in love with "people" anymore... Looks like many of us fall in love with our own projections on random subjects we find appealing for one reason or another.

excellent response, I'd give you reps, but you know the drill...