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If the economy were good, I would definitely consider moving for the right person, unless of course they lived in Siberia or something. But these days, it would be hard to move somewhere even if Mrs. Right were there if I also had to worry about being unemployed. Hard to start a life with someone when you have no money.
That's the prime consideration for me. If I can't earn a living there, what's the point? After that, it has to be a reasonable place to live but I've lived in some difficult places, in my life and its usually what you make of it.
In contrast, I've known several guys who ended up divorced because their wife decided that she wanted to live is somewhere "better" - usually a code word for a larger city in a warmer place.
The women left and I don't know how they fared. Usually, the living is not easy in such places, unless your idea of shelter is sleeping on the beach.
As an aside, I often wonder why young people stay in crappy places with no jobs. Here's where I could see a couple relocating, for good reason. What is it about Flint, Michigan?
LOL. There was a study that showed a direct correlation between the longevity of marriage and distance from in-laws. The farther away a couple lived from their families, the longer the marriage lasted. Ha ha.
I know you are trying to make a joke, but the opposite is true. There is a higher divorce rate among couples who move here from a long way off. They lose the circle of family and friends they had to rely on and help with stress. Losing this support can be hard on a marriage. However, there's no future in welfare and seasonal work, either.
In recent years, many made a killing in real estate and were able to return home, buy a house for cash, have plenty of savings and be able to easily survive on seasonal work. Another marriage saved!
I knew a guy who moved to a great city with his wife and kids. But the wife didn't like it and asked to move back to where they were before. Shortly after that, she divorced him. Now he has to stay where he is so that his kids can be close to both parents.
As for staying in places where there are no jobs like Flint, for a lot of people, it's not easy to move. First, you have to have find a job in another city and that's hard to do when you're not a local. Second, even if you do find a job, you have to sell your house, which you'd have a hard time doing in this market. And third, a lot of people stay in crappy places cause that's all they can afford. Too many of the best cities are also too expensive for many of us.
As far as being close to family, I can understand why that would be a good thing, as long as you're close to both sides. I've seen couples who lived close to one person's family and it made it unbearable for that person's spouse because their partner's family was always sticking their nose in their lives.
I'm not sure if I would ever relocate for a guy. Unless we had been in a long-term relationship and he got a job offer somewhere else. Or if we jointly decided to move to a new place.
I go to the ends of the earth for the right man--anywhere, but Alaska, that is. I just spend all but the last 4 years of my life there, that's enough. LOL
One or two of my brothers have been in Alaska men. Nothing came of it.
good answer. and i'd do the same for a good woman. and i'd look for florida women or maybe texas women. good post.
Never moved for anyone really.....we moved together but I did not move to be with them.
My now husband was selling his place and moving when we met. He hated the city we were in, he had only moved their temporarily to complete a fellowship. Well....after a couple months of dating, he sold his place and stayed for me, I guess he didn't hate it that much after all.
LOL...I'm not bashing it, I've lived in both states. But I wonder what is significant about FL and TX.
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