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After talking & nagging etc, it looks like this is a battle I won't win. He insists on a "third party" having a spare key "just in case'. I said lets compromise & have a friend, not ur mom keep the keys. Mama's boy still won't barge. I'm not willing to go put up a fight with his mother & demand the keys back as she is innocent in that she did not steal them from the house but my SO willingly gave them to her.
He however says that he told her NOT to come in announced or without knocking. In the meantime, I will put an inside key/wenchie. Thanks you everybody for that tip as I had not thought of it.
Ideally I would have loved to move out for a good two months or so till ALL my demands are met. But this is probably not possible so as of today I'm withdrawing sexual services from him, sleeping in separate bedrooms, talking to him only when necessary & when he is downstairs I intend to be upstairs.
Games are for children...you are about to be someone's mother, I suggest you act like an adult, quit your pouting and temper tantruming and figure out how you are going to live with this "mama's boy". Or perhaps, how you are going to live without him.
After talking & nagging etc, it looks like this is a battle I won't win. He insists on a "third party" having a spare key "just in case'. I said lets compromise & have a friend, not ur mom keep the keys. Mama's boy still won't barge. I'm not willing to go put up a fight with his mother & demand the keys back as she is innocent in that she did not steal them from the house but my SO willingly gave them to her.
He however says that he told her NOT to come in announced or without knocking. In the meantime, I will put an inside key/wenchie. Thanks you everybody for that tip as I had not thought of it.
Ideally I would have loved to move out for a good two months or so till ALL my demands are met. But this is probably not possible so as of today I'm withdrawing sexual services from him, sleeping in separate bedrooms, talking to him only when necessary & when he is downstairs I intend to be upstairs.
You guys aren't even married yet and you're going to play the sex card with him? Pleeeezzzze don't get married. (to each other). It doesn't look good from here.
My SO is 40 and we live together. Before I moved in, his mother always had an extra key "just in case he lost his keys or if there was an emergency". ( These are his words!)
Fast forward to me living with him now. I want him to get the keys from his mother. This is for privacy reasons. She has opened the door without knocking twice. That is, she came over to where we live & opened the door ...used her keys to let herself in...no knock, no prior phonecall ...nothing!
Once she even just opened the door to where we live without knocking & found me Moderator cut: .. . You would think my SO would of gotten the keys back after that incident.
The house belongs to my SO as I do not contribute financially ( not working and also pregnant).
I feel like these people (him and his mother) are disrespecting me because it is "his" house not "our" house since he pays the mortage & I don't. We are not legally married. Living together & expecting a child.
So I want him to get the spare key from his mother as I'm not comfortable with another woman having the keys to where I live. He feels that since I'm pregnant for the first time I might need his mother to have the keys in case of "pregnancy emergencies". My take is that if there is an emergency I'll call 911.
I said lets compromise & have a spare set of keys in a safety deposit box @ the bank not with his mother. He refuses.
Am I wrong for wanting the keys back? If I lose my keys my SO has the keys & vice versa so I feel we dont need third parties aka his mother keeping a spare key.
I'm so mad. Please help. I feel like choking him right now
Thanks
Girl friends are not wives. Wives are (relatively speaking)permanent, girl friends are not. Girl Friends have nothing to say about how someone lives their life. They may not be there next week.
Mother's deserve all the respect that a child can give them. It is an act of respect to entrust the keys to the mother.
Girl friends should button up, or next week might come sooner than expected.
Girl friends are not wives. Wives are (relatively speaking)permanent, girl friends are not. Girl Friends have nothing to say about how someone lives their life. They may not be there next week.
Mother's deserve all the respect that a child can give them. It is an act of respect to entrust the keys to the mother.
Girl friends should button up, or next week might come sooner than expected.
I can not go back to Canada. We paid over $6000 to ship my stuff here etc. I am pregnant, not even allowed to fly. Walking back there would take me a while.
If I could go back home I wouldn't have to play the "withdrawal of sex" game.
You guys aren't even married yet and you're going to play the sex card with him? Pleeeezzzze don't get married. (to each other). It doesn't look good from here.
No doubt I read posts like the OP's and I'm thankful for Mrs. Chow, the OP is dripping with hostility, calling her boy friend a "Mama's boy."
She starting to play games with sex and acting like "Daddies girl" with the tantrums.
Hopefully the wedding will last longer that the warranty of the wedding gifts does.
6 years together? So ask him, what's yours is yours and mine is mine? ugh!
I say he needs to cut the cord with his mother or the apron strings!!!!!!
You can have a key for his mother BUT she needs to respect your privacy!! That is rude to come barging in. Your better half needs to stand up to his mother. He is whipped!!sadly!
No doubt I read posts like the OP's and I'm thankful for Mrs. Chow, the OP is dripping with hostility, calling her boy friend a "Mama's boy."
She starting to play games with sex and acting like "Daddies girl" with the tantrums.
Hopefully the wedding will last longer that the warranty of the wedding gifts does.
Well it sounds like the sex thing is just part of withdrawing from the guy altogether because he is just not listening or respecting her. It's kind of difficult to "do it" when you're not in the same room.
Well it sounds like the sex thing is just part of withdrawing from the guy altogether because he is just not listening or respecting her. It's kind of difficult to "do it" when you're not in the same room.
What if he has a really long..........
J/K
I hope they work it out.
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( These are his words!)
You would think my SO would of gotten the keys back after that incident.
