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this is the secound time ive caught him, i dont know what to do, i want to do the right thing, should i work with him, im hurt and upset, we are married with one kid and one on theway. should i leave him but what would i do?
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Originally Posted by truth109
well, the thing is also he lied to me to face and told me he wasnt looking at it all night while i was sleeping, when i have the proof that he was and the fact he lied to my face makes it worse
That's the OP.
Nothing in there about neglecting her.
You are projecting. You know, not differentiating between the real problem and your feelings.
She is upset that he is looking at porn. She is upset he is lying.
The porn should be a non-issue.
If he is lying to her they have a bigger and different problem.
Why would you assume that you know the men I've been with better than I do?
Because they're men.
Look, a few years back, the University of Montreal in Canada decided to do a research project about how viewing porn affects men's attitudes towards women. The plan was to compare attitudes among 2 group of men. The first group was to be made up of men who watched porn. The second group was to be made up of men who did not watch porn.
The project had to be abandoned. Do you know why?
BECAUSE THE RESEARCHERS COULDN'T FIND ANY MEN WHO DIDN'T WATCH PORN!
Look, a few years back, the University of Montreal in Canada decided to do a research project about how viewing porn affects men's attitudes towards women. The plan was to compare attitudes among 2 group of men. The first group was to be made up of men who watched porn. The second group was to be made up of men who did not watch porn.
The project had to be abandoned. Do you know why?
BECAUSE THE RESEARCHERS COULDN'T FIND ANY MEN WHO DIDN'T WATCH PORN!
You are projecting. You know, not differentiating between the real problem and your feelings.
She is upset that he is looking at porn. She is upset he is lying.
The porn should be a non-issue.
If he is lying to her they have a bigger and different problem.
Of course. I missed neglecting part. Usually how it goes. Porn addiction is an issue though. But don't you think it is kind of harsh to say "get over it!" ?? Woman just wants to be happy, loved and desired, and also treated with respect, is this too much to ask? If he was a single, i can understand if he wants to jack himself, but if he has an alive woman at home that longs for his attention, why would he give it to some moaning ska*k on a porno video while his woman gives him the time of the day?? That is what I don't get.
No, because they are jacka**es. Here we go... If they want to jerk a jerky, they should not get in a relationship and screw with people's emotions. It is a bad habit.
I have no need to be "the one" in all my husband's fantasies (heck, even if I did - if he don't tell, I don't know ). It's called "fantasies." I have some pretty kinky stuff that goes through my head, doesn't mean I want it to come true.
I have no need to be "the one" in all my husband's fantasies (heck, even if I did - if he don't tell, I don't know ). It's called "fantasies." I have some pretty kinky stuff that goes through my head, doesn't mean I want it to come true.
That is cool, I sometimes feel the same. I might even point out a pretty girl from VS catalog to my man. Nothing though. He does not want to invest his thoughts and time into some stranger or a moaning video. He says if i am not around he would rather get on treadmill or do some work. I got a pretty strong response from him just now. We fantasies together and try different lingerie
To original posting lady, my man suggests to tell her hubby: "that it hurts her. It hurts as much as a physical pain. Ask him to stop, have a talk with him. If he does not stop, he is an abuser. No excuses here". It came from a A-10 pilot, an Alpha male, who has been all over the would. He also asked to express his sorrow to those who looks at porn. Find better things to do with your life, boys. Invest your time wisely.
To original posting lady, my man suggests to tell her hubby: "that it hurts her. It hurts as much as a physical pain. Ask him to stop, have a talk with him. If he does not stop, he is an abuser. No excuses here". It came from a A-10 pilot, an Alpha male, who has been all over the would. He also asked to express his sorrow to those who looks at porn. Find better things to do with your life, boys. Invest your time wisely.
So if my husband tells me it hurts him very badly that I do not do all the housework, laundry, errands and cooking; and if I don't do it then I'm an abuser?
Or.... it hurts him VERY badly that I don't let him look at porn, then I am an abusive wife?
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). It's called "fantasies." I have some pretty kinky stuff that goes through my head, doesn't mean I want it to come true.
