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this is the secound time ive caught him, i dont know what to do, i want to do the right thing, should i work with him, im hurt and upset, we are married with one kid and one on theway. should i leave him but what would i do?
Meh. My husband looks at porn too. Who cares?
We've been married for many years, happily, and we have a great relationship. I don't think he'd ever dream of cheating.
But men (not to be overly graphic) seem to need to get off more frequently than women do, and since I don't plan to make myself available for sex multiple times a day at his convenience, it only makes sense for him to take matters into his own hands. Porn is just a visual aid men use when they masturbate. All men do it. I've been married twice. Both of my husbands have looked at porn. My dad used to look at porn. I remember finding Penthouse magazines in the bathroom when I was a kid.
It's normal.
No, I think we're people and should be treated with dignity.
You cannot control the way people think about you, man or woman, good or bad or when. If he is polite and gentlemanly, then he is treating you with dignity.
You cannot control the way people think about you, man or woman, good or bad or when. If he is polite and gentlemanly, then he is treating you with dignity.
I don't call the way some of the men here say men think about women treating them with one iota of dignity. In fact, just the opposite.
I'm revolted by the idea a man any woman is having a casual conversation with is, mentally, undressing her. That's sick.
Finding me attractive when I'm in a romantic situation is something, entirely, different. There is a time and a place for everything and the work place isn't the place to be, mentally, undressing coworkers. I hope that behavior isn't the norm. I'd hate to think men think that little of women but given the oppression of women, I'm afraid it may be right.
It's not sick it's normal with every man out there. Any man that tells you otherwise is lying or gay or asexual.
But how do you get to a romantic situation if no man ever had lust in his heart when he saw you? You are putting the cart before the horse. For romance and sex to happen there has to be some desire or lust for the other person. You thinking makes no rational sense at all to how romantic and sexual relationships form.
I think you are confusing men having attracted feelings for women as a perversion and oppression, which is bizarre to say the least. If anything it is a positive, not a negative. Otherwise you'd never have your romantic or sexual relationships.
I don't call the way some of the men here say men think about women treating them with one iota of dignity. In fact, just the opposite.
You're talking extremes. Even still, if they are not expressing these things to these women, they are being respectful. How one thinks and acting on it are two entirely different things.
Leave Ivory alone she has a condition. Have mercy.
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Originally Posted by wanneroo
It's not sick it's normal with every man out there. Any man that tells you otherwise is lying or gay or asexual.
But how do you get to a romantic situation if no man ever had lust in his heart when he saw you? You are putting the cart before the horse. For romance and sex to happen there has to be some desire or lust for the other person. You thinking makes no rational sense at all to how romantic and sexual relationships form.
I think you are confusing men having attracted feelings for women as a perversion and oppression, which is bizarre to say the least. If anything it is a positive, not a negative. Otherwise you'd never have your romantic or sexual relationships.
You're talking extremes. Even still, if they are not expressing these things to these women, they are being respectful. How one thinks and acting on it are two entirely different things.
I wish men could think of us as people. I'm disturbed they only think of us naked. I thought they outgrew that in high school.
I'm glad I'm older. I don't have to worry about being thought of like that by strangers.
Meh. My husband looks at porn too. Who cares?
We've been married for many years, happily, and we have a great relationship. I don't think he'd ever dream of cheating.
But men (not to be overly graphic) seem to need to get off more frequently than women do, and since I don't plan to make myself available for sex multiple times a day at his convenience, it only makes sense for him to take matters into his own hands. Porn is just a visual aid men use when they masturbate. All men do it. I've been married twice. Both of my husbands have looked at porn. My dad used to look at porn. I remember finding Penthouse magazines in the bathroom when I was a kid.
It's normal.
My dad didn't and my brothers don't. I grew up in a family that considered it wrong to objectify women in that manner. Could be why they're all happlily married. Imagine that. Treat women like they're people worthy of respect. Who know my brothers were on the cutting edge.
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