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For the same reason my "mother", who was abusive to me and my siblings and spent all the child support on drugs and booze filed for a divorce: GREED. If the husband cannot provide enough money, enough material possessions, a big enough car etc etc etc it makes perfect sense from the woman's greedy prospective to dump him, milk him until he's dry through alimony and child support, only about 50% of which actually goes to the kids, and get another man to milk for all he's worth too.
By that logic I guess I can say that all husbands screw around, are too slack to initiate divorce proceedings, shuffle off into the distance after the papers are signed NEVER paying child support which effectively ruins their children's chances of getting a good education, not to mention being adequately fed and clothed. By that logic I could say all men are jerks.....but I'd be wrong.
Applying the exact same negative rationale to others based on the bad behaviour of one person in your experience does not add up to ALL. What your mother did was crappy at best and criminal at worst BUT to have come to the conclusion that because of what she did ALL women divorce because of GREED is really short sighted.
I agree with others who have said that it is mostly women who file because men have a vested interest in not filing or they just can't be bothered.
Just MHO, but I thnk women are, in general, more decisive when it comes to relationships.
Men will often say they "need some space" or perhaps "some time off". They hem and they haw...but when a woman decides a relationship is over? It's over. O.V.E.R. over.
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Just MHO, but I thnk women are, in general, more decisive when it comes to relationships.
Men will often say they "need some space" or perhaps "some time off". They hem and they haw...but when a woman decides a relationship is over? It's over. O.V.E.R. over.
It has been my experience that when a woman tells you she's leaving,she's already gone and you just didn't know it.
My lawn service guy is getting divorced and his wife (both in their 20s) was the one who filed. I asked him what happened and why was he getting the divorce and I sure got more than I asked for. Talk about TMI... he told me he had an alcohol problem and he and his wife were always fighting. He planned to tell her he wanted a divorce as soon as their third child had been born, but when his wife was around 8 months pregnant, he had an affair and his wife found out about it. He showed up at the hospital when the baby was born, but then left to go to the bar and didn't return (his wife was actually upset at him for this ) I also heard from a couple people I work with who also use this guy to mow their lawns, that my lawn guy had been in rehab, and had been in jail for leaving the scene of an accident (fender bender). Yeah, my lawn guy is a real gem
Anyway, I asked him why his wife did the filing and he told me his lawyer told him to let her be the one to file so it wouldn't appear like he was "abandoning" his wife and children. In reality, he was the one who wanted the divorce and exhibited the majority of the bad behavior in the relationship.
My boyfriend's dad has been the one to do the filing EVERY TIME he's divorced somebody (yes, I did say, "every time," as in multiple divorces). He's also announced his ending of each of his marriages by not joining the family on a vacation, and moving to an apartment while they're gone.
He's an attorney himself. And obviously a class act.
My boyfriend's dad has been the one to do the filing EVERY TIME he's divorced somebody (yes, I did say, "every time," as in multiple divorces). He's also announced his ending of each of his marriages by not joining the family on a vacation, and moving to an apartment while they're gone.
He's an attorney himself. And obviously a class act.
Yikes. Hopefully the BF has been through extensive and costly therapy.
I filed for divorce in my first marriage because I was done. I told my ex he had a week to file and after three days, I just went and found a great attorney and did it myself. My ex thought I was lying until he finally got served the papers. Some guys just never learn.
So, I filed because I was done and I would file again with my second hubby if I ever started to feel that same way. I'm not going to prolong a situation.
And women always get something out of it....even if a garbage man married Paris Hilton, chances are nine out of ten that he would still have to pay her something.
Actually some women pay dearly to dump an abusive slimeball hoping to have a shot at freedom and peace. No thought to getting anything other than a chance to wake up and enjoy a day without a whiner tainting the air. The day is long gone where it is an uneven split by gender. Now it seems to be whoever was the least responsible the court makes sure they don't end up on the public payroll.
Women usually want closure and will work to make it happen.
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) I also heard from a couple people I work with who also use this guy to mow their lawns, that my lawn guy had been in rehab, and had been in jail for leaving the scene of an accident (fender bender). Yeah, my lawn guy is a real gem 
