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yes, I take zero initiative.b/c that's how the dating is supposed to be..guys chase...girls choose..
I never paid on the first three dates... it is HIS great pleasure to have me on a date...what I pay is my time..
I don't think any of the men here really have that much of a problem paying for a date. Wait, that's stupid I can't speak for all men.
I never have a problem paying for a date. Especially one I initiated. However the problem is bolded. Really, why would you even go along with a guy if you are just gracing him with your presence? Free meals??
It's quite possible he doesn't see a reason to waste $100 on food--how many times a week can somebody do that? $100 is what I spend on TWO weeks of food to eat at home. And I don't get paid again for another two weeks, so I don't have "extra".
think the OP displayed some hypocrisy in her initial posts. Feigning outrage over him inviting her over on a fourth "date" to watch movies and her suspicion he was trying to get down her pants, but actually being outraged that he would do that without first taking her out and springing for dinner. So Sofiama, which is it...a moral or fiscal dilemma?
After reading all of these posts all I can say is WOW! The dating world has changed ALOT since my day! The OP clearly has a large chip on her shoulder and if she talks on her dates like she has on this forum...I can see why the guy doesn't want to invest anything worthwhile in her.
If my son brought home a girl like this, I would advise him to kick her a** to the curb along with her chip, tiara and "funky little" attitude!
Last edited by seeniorita; 01-25-2010 at 01:44 PM..
After reading your original post and subsequent replies, you come across as kind of a p.i.t.a. No wonder you're single; keep up the self-centered, materialistic prudishness and you'll stay that way. Please do a favor for both of you and break it off with him asap.
I'm not reading all these pages but I do agree..what is up with dating?
It's okay to have sex with the guy if he buys you a meal? He has to spend, spend then you will figure you got paid?
I thought you have 2 people, they are attracted to each other, build a mutual relationship then progress to 'making love' or whatever you want to call it.
If you need to get payment (either by having sex or being bought a meal) then well, I have no sympathy for either of you.
When I first met my husband, he was a Private in the Army making $800/month. I never expected him to pay for everything, especially with a salary like that. Sometimes he would pay, sometimes I would pay, other times we would go half and half.
I think I swooned a little.... Do they have an emoticon of a burly, hairy smiley falling over while little hearts flutter around him?
Ahhhh...swooning...another reminder of the "good ole" days of dating. Sorry Urban, no emoticon fits your wonderful description but thanks for the visual!
When I first met my husband, he was a Private in the Army making $800/month. I never expected him to pay for everything, especially with a salary like that. Sometimes he would pay, sometimes I would pay, other times we would go half and half.
Precisely. I like that attitude.
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The dating world has changed ALOT since my day! The OP clearly has a large chip on her shoulder and if she talks on her dates like she has on this forum...I can see why the guy doesn't want to invest anything worthwhile in her. 
Sorry Urban, no emoticon fits your wonderful description but thanks for the visual! 
