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I prefer someone who can support himself or is doing something that is meaningful, but not necessarily going to be anything but hand-to-mouth. For example I have a colleague who trains landmine detecting and TB diagnosis rats in Tanzania and can barely get by, but what he is doing is awesome. Honestly if he wasn't married and nearly 2x my age I'd give him a look.
The short answer - yes. But that only means that you need to be able to support not only yourself, but the lifestyle that comes with having a wife and kids, if that's what you want.
I never wanted to be with a man that I had to financially support, or that couldn't support our lifestyle, should I want to/need to stay home with the kids. And just in case you're wondering, I could easily outearn my dh, but it works better for us for me to be home with the kids, and for him to work. In the future, when the kids are older and in school FT, I'll start working more. This is the kind of flexibility that's nice to have, if your SO earns enough for "more than just him/herself".
I am a 29 year old bachelor who makes enough to live comfortably for 1 person. But if I had a wife, I wouldn't be able to support her. My fear of dating or finding someone is because I think I don't make enough money. My question is, do women really want a guy that makes more than her and can support her?
Most women I know are married to men who work while they (the women) do not.
I'm terribly sorry to be negative, but yes women regardless of age want a guy who makes SIGNIFICANTLY more then her if she even works at all, and support her shopping habits.
I know one man who's wife made him get two jobs so he could pay for her shopping while she refuses to work. Its sad that is this way, but thats life and there's nothing you can do about it
Women say you dont need money, but really you do. Its about as much bs as women saying they want a nice guy who will treat them right, then they turn around and date the overly possessive, physically abusive bad boy
Women want the opposite of what they say. And quite frankly their standards are WAY too high.
You are single, making enough to comfortably support yourself, so in my book you are a real man, who is going his own way and not listening to some harpie tell you what to do. Good for you I'd rep you but I'd have to spread it around more first
I am a 29 year old bachelor who makes enough to live comfortably for 1 person. But if I had a wife, I wouldn't be able to support her. My fear of dating or finding someone is because I think I don't make enough money. My question is, do women really want a guy that makes more than her and can support her?
I am sure there are women out there who will only accept this as a standard for dating you. However, use your logic when it comes to dating and know the ability to be supported by another is a priviledge, not a gender-based right.
My question is, do women really want a guy that makes more than her and can support her?
I think many women seek men who hold good, steady jobs and bring home a decent paycheck.
I don't think most women are looking for a rich guy gravy train (heck, there's only a limited number of those guys around, after all). But many women are keenly attuned to a guy's profession and work, and many women will assiduously avoid a long term relationship with a guy who reeks of being a freeloader or has a problem being employable. Given that the labors of childbearing tend to fall heavier upon the shoulders of women, and given that their earnings are too frequently less than that of men, the last thing many women want to add to their life is the burden of carrying an unproductive guy.
Keep in mind, too, that becasue people typically pair with others within the same general socio-economic status (status which is usually directly connected to profession/career), women typically seek partners who exhibit desirable characteristics with their social stratum. Men far below or above this stratum are usually not considered as potential mates.
But if you hold down a decent job, work hard, and are financially responsible then I think you'll be just fine. Few women are looking to a guy for a free ride. Rather, I think most women are looking for a good and productive partner who will help carry their share of the burdens -- financial and otherwise -- of life.
I totally agree with you DAVIE. I have the same perception and that is a major reason why I have not taken the marriage step. I need to make more money so I can take care of my wife in case something happens where she can no longer work.
I know one man who's wife made him get two jobs so he could pay for her shopping while she refuses to work. Its sad that is this way, but thats life and there's nothing you can do about it
If he doesn't want to be treated like a chump, why did he marry a woman who treats him like one?
Most women I know are married to men who work while they (the women) do not.
I'm terribly sorry to be negative, but yes women regardless of age want a guy who makes SIGNIFICANTLY more then her if she even works at all, and support her shopping habits.
I know one man who's wife made him get two jobs so he could pay for her shopping while she refuses to work. Its sad that is this way, but thats life and there's nothing you can do about it
Women say you dont need money, but really you do. Its about as much bs as women saying they want a nice guy who will treat them right, then they turn around and date the overly possessive, physically abusive bad boy
Women want the opposite of what they say. And quite frankly their standards are WAY too high.
You are single, making enough to comfortably support yourself, so in my book you are a real man, who is going his own way and not listening to some harpie tell you what to do. Good for you I'd rep you but I'd have to spread it around more first
You also only know high schoolers and their hot cousins from your minimum wage job.
In the professional world, there are plenty of women with their own money. They want a man who is financially responsible, not because they want to get married and quit their jobs, but because they do not want to have to support him. Big difference. The only women I know who don't work have children. I, personally, do not know a SINGLE non-mother who does not work They all had careers before giving birth and many of them will return to work once their children start school.
There are golddiggers out there of both genders, but most women want a man who can bring what they can to the table.
I am a 29 year old bachelor who makes enough to live comfortably for 1 person. But if I had a wife, I wouldn't be able to support her. My fear of dating or finding someone is because I think I don't make enough money. My question is, do women really want a guy that makes more than her and can support her?
Yes! Of course, given the choice between a guy with money and a guy just able to support himself, I'd rather have the guy with money. But... it really depends on the situation.
In your case, is there the potential for you to make more money? Or do you think that you will forever be a person that can only make enough money to support one person? Are you able to have a savings account? What are you spending your money on? Are you making new car payments? Is that car nicer than you need? Are you a renter? Do you plan to buy a condo or house later on? What do you think your retirement might be like?
I've found that different people can make the same money, but what they do with their paychecks is completely different. If a guy is not making a lot of money, but is a saver and good with what he has, that is more reassuring than a guy that makes a lot of money, but is also a big spender.
Otherwise, for you, you might want to avoid trying to date any woman that wants to marry and have a family.
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I'd rep you but I'd have to spread it around more first
Do women really want a guy with money?
