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After spending an evening with a significantly younger crowd a couple weeks ago I noted to my wife yet another difference between us. She leaves feeling 18; I feel as if I'm 75. While I certainly enjoy youthful beauty and listening to their wildly different views of life, after a few minutes a 20 yo simply makes me feel old.
I'm married, but if I were single (I'm 43), I wouldn't date men younger than mid-late 30's...preferably 40s-50s. I am so not a cougar...that's not my style...
Mind if I take a stab at it? I'm now in my 60s but was back on the "market" when I was 50 having divorced at 48.
While younger women can decidedly be nice to look at and may be fun to flirt with a bit, if I was ever going to commit again I wanted someone around my own age -- someone who had lived in my world and experienced the same history, social changes, music and movies, historic triumphs and failures, fashions, fads, etc. that I had. In short, someone I could talk to and really communicate with, maybe even understand a little.
I, too, held out. My wife is only two years younger than I am.
By the way, older women are also nice to look at and flirt with a little!
I have to say, I married a man 16 years younger than me and we NEVER ran out of things to talk about. We didn't grow up in the same time frame but we had tons in common anyway. I think maturity and intelligence have a lot to do with it and I was very impressed with him because of those two things. We managed to make it 15 years so I really don't see that many negatives about older/younger relationships. It is a very individual thing. It DID make me much more tolerant of others who chose that route.
I have to say, I married a man 16 years younger than me and we NEVER ran out of things to talk about. We didn't grow up in the same time frame but we had tons in common anyway. I think maturity and intelligence have a lot to do with it and I was very impressed with him because of those two things. We managed to make it 15 years so I really don't see that many negatives about older/younger relationships. It is a very individual thing. It DID make me much more tolerant of others who chose that route.
Exactly.
People's assumptions are showing when they lay down their laws about inter-generational relationships. They recite their party-line likes and dislikes and find a thousand reasons why "it doesn't work".
As one who has been with ladies 25 years younger as well as 30 years older, I can say that, like you, I found no dearth of interesting conversation nor any emotional limitations.
We are what we are, individually. To try to shoehorn everyone into one category is a sin of the highest order.
Dear, I've been on this forum for over 2 years and I've written everything there is to say on just about any topic. You're right - celebrating Ground Hog day every day is not my thing and now I'm just amusing myself.
Please don't!
Don't what? You asked, due to some fear of losing control of your actions and getting tossed of this precious forum, that we simply avoid each other. You keep replying to my posts. Since you usually enjoy personal attacks in ambuscade without meaningful content, it was perfectly agreeable to me.
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Originally Posted by Whyte Byrd I didn't think there was a man on earth who could resist someone 20 to 30 years younger than themselves.
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Originally Posted by sierraAZ Well, it kinda depends on what they look like... Many can't even hold a candle to women twice their age and more.
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Originally Posted by NotARedneck
There are women who go for older men because they are not judgmental about their looks like men their own age. Any time I've seen articles about this, I expect such comments from some of the women.
FFwd 5 years and these guys are the grizzled veterans hanging out at the single men's shelter, pan handling and grabbing a meal from charity. Too old to find work, they lost their house and retirement savings. Everyone now just assumes thay are another alcoholic or a drug addict.
People's assumptions are showing when they lay down their laws about inter-generational relationships. They recite their party-line likes and dislikes and find a thousand reasons why "it doesn't work".
As one who has been with ladies 25 years younger as well as 30 years older, I can say that, like you, I found no dearth of interesting conversation nor any emotional limitations.
We are what we are, individually. To try to shoehorn everyone into one category is a sin of the highest order.
I'm in my 50's and I would find it somewhat repugnant to date someone close to my kids' ages. I'd always think I could be dating a girl I coached when my kids were young and that just sounds sick to me. If I were to be dating, I think my window would be plus or minus 10 years from my age.
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