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In reading and responding to another cheating thread, this came to mind.
Anyone is welcome to respond, but those of you who would never, ever, ever, ever, ever cheat, no matter what, would probably not be ideal participants to this discussion as I am going to eliminate divorce as an option.
The truth is that there are an alarming number of married men who are seeking companionship elsewhere. The reasons vary, but I am going to focus on those who's needs are really not being met at home. Whether it is due to illness, menopause or being complacent, this area of the marriage is hopless, but the the rest makes it worth staying. Granted, these are different circumstances, the latter being more a matter of selfishness. The bottom line is that the interest isn't there in any case and you can't force it.
What do you think of the option of going the professional route as opposed to an all-out emotional affair? You walk in, have your needs met, if you're lucky you'll have good conversation, common interests, some laughter, you go home and see ya next week.
Hmmm that sounds so nice and neat, but cheating often has an emotional component to it. If the cheater is just being physically served, he is going to seek the emotional component elsewhere sooner or later. Sex is a powerful motivator, but cheaters want more than just sex before it is all said and done. I think...
If it's due to illness or something else totally out of her control that is only preventing her from satisfying him physically, but all of the emotional connection is still there, I think there are far safer and less emotionally traumatic ways to take care of the physical needs that don't involve cheating of any kind.
I just figure that if you're hiring your body out to multiple people, then your chances of an STD are way higher than the average bear's. High class hooker or not, no way.
What do you think of the option of going the professional route as opposed to an all-out emotional affair? You walk in, have your needs met, if you're lucky you'll have good conversation, common interests, some laughter, you go home and see ya next week.
It would certainly be an option. However, I would think that the thing the guy may be missing is more than just sex...it is intimacy, it is being wanted and desired. When the wife expresses little interest in sex the message she sends is that she doesn't want him.
An escort could undoubtedly provide great sex, but any emotional intimacy with her would be ultimately fake. In that way, an escort would not be as fulfilling as an affair. An affair is between two people who want each other. Even if the want is just physical, it is still voluntary desire. And who doesn't want to be desired?
As for STD's: this is the standard trope that sexual traditionalists bring out to argue against acts they disapprove of. The fact is that STD's are common but not ubiquitous, and practicing safe sex is usually very effective in prevention. The traditionalists tend to inflate the perceived risk of STD transmission either out of sincere ignorance or disingenuousness as a means of scaring people away from some sexual behavior the traditionalists dislike. Fortunately, we live in the U.S.A. and not Saudi Arabia or North Korea.
Hmmm that sounds so nice and neat, but cheating often has an emotional component to it. If the cheater is just being physically served, he is going to seek the emotional component elsewhere sooner or later. Sex is a powerful motivator, but cheaters want more than just sex before it is all said and done. I think...
Damn, I've lost my repping MoJo, can't seem to rep anybody.
As for STD's: this is the standard trope that sexual traditionalists bring out to argue against acts they disapprove of. The fact is that STD's are common but not ubiquitous, and practicing safe sex is usually very effective in prevention. The traditionalists tend to inflate the perceived risk of STD transmission either out of sincere ignorance or disingenuousness as a means of scaring people away from some sexual behavior the traditionalists dislike. Fortunately, we live in the U.S.A. and not Saudi Arabia or North Korea.
The more people you sleep with the greater chance of contracting an STD you have. It's simple mathematics.
Well, the are really only 2 options if it's supposed to be no strings attached sex.
1) Friend with benefits. This could get messy tho.
2) Hooker.
Using your assumptions, if you are broke...you go FWB route. If you have a nice chunk of money...you go the hooker route I guess.
This isn't my cup of tea but just puzzling through the situation.
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