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Yep, and see, men are mostly hardwired to solve problems. I know this used to happen to me all the time - almost as if I'd make the problem my own and set about solving it. I'd totally ignore the signals being given me by the lady and just blunder ahead full-speed with my hammer and wrenches.
My solution was to stick my hands in my pockets when listening - it helped to quell the urge to destroy / create / repair / remodel.
Boy, that's the truth! I hate it when my dh makes suggestions when all I want to do is vent. Like I can't figure it out by myself anyway. I just want to b*tch!
Why don't you do it this way? Why don't you try this or this...or that? I have an idea how you can fix things or solve your problems....How do you handle unsollicited advice and "know-it-alls" in your life?
I have to admit I am this way. Having a background in management and sales, I am programmed to offer solutions to problems. It also pairs with my personality as an alpha female and wanting to help others.
Yep, and see, men are mostly hardwired to solve problems. I know this used to happen to me all the time - almost as if I'd make the problem my own and set about solving it. I'd totally ignore the signals being given me by the lady and just blunder ahead full-speed with my hammer and wrenches.
My solution was to stick my hands in my pockets when listening - it helped to quell the urge to destroy / create / repair / remodel.
Thanks...I enjoy your sense of humor. I think we will all "drown' and "go down" eventually if we can't let some humor and playfulness sneak out once in awhile. How do you feel about it? I am facing some pretty tough times right now and I know I could easily "crack-up" if I didn't have a sense of humor and didn't work to stay "half-way balanced."
Thanks...I enjoy your sense of humor. I think we will all "drown' and "go down" eventually if we can't let some humor and playfulness sneak out once in awhile. How do you feel about it? I am facing some pretty tough times right now and I know I could easily "crack-up" if I didn't have a sense of humor and didn't work to stay "half-way balanced."
Well, all I can say is please be careful what you wish for. My humor (if you can call it that) came at the expense of my mental health.
In other words (), I'm funny but crazy. Just ask around here - they'll all tell ya.
I try to be crazy and nutty whenever possible to keep from dropping off the cliff..When I stay too serious all of the time I start to get headaches and feel lousy all over because I am too rigid and stiff...I think we have to "step outside the box" to come up with creative ideas and fresh new insights. Don't you?
I try to be crazy and nutty whenever possible to keep from dropping off the cliff..When I stay too serious all of the time I start to get headaches and feel lousy all over because I am too rigid and stiff...I think we have to "step outside the box" to come up with creative ideas and fresh new insights. Don't you?
I don't have to "try".
I LIVE outside the box, have for most of my life, so humor comes naturally to me. It's also an excellent defense mechanism.
When you've been subjected to straight-laced corporate clones and pompous religious figures long enough, you find that humor is a fantastic weapon to use in puncturing their bubbles. And there are more and more articles and books being published on the healing effects of laughter, so I've no doubt laughter helps you cope with the headaches, etc.
I'm sorry, but I have to assume that you're female?
If so, you're displaying the classic feminine trait of stating a problem but not really wanting an answer - just some ear-space. Nothing wrong with that, but you might have to clarify to your listeners that you aren't really after answers.
That's BS. Men do the same thing all the time. If I had a buck for every time a male friend or boyfriend bent my ear out of shape complaining, Id be rich! They didn't care about advice just having a sounding board. Many men prefer using their wife or girlfriend as a sounding board instead of their male friends. They don't want to be seen as less than manly by their friends.
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They didn't care about advice just having a sounding board. Many men prefer using their wife or girlfriend as a sounding board instead of their male friends. They don't want to be seen as less than manly by their friends.
