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A male critter who doesn't even cover his own expenses IS most definitely a tosser! Now, if you go for sugar mammas who for some unknown reason are enamored by you, then it's her business what she does and you can fully enjoy it, but refrain from recommending it to men.
OK, but that is not the case with me. She paid for it, cos she asked me out and she wanted to pay for it, despite only going out to the local pub or other cheap places. Now I pay for most things, and I treat her a lot of times.
A lot of people here are quick to jump on someones throat and call them cheap and tossers just because they done something different.
If the guy doesn't want to pay for dinner, perhaps he should only have invited the gal out for coffee?
If he's inviting for dinner, he's gonna pick up the tab. It would be expected by me. Anything less and I go home in a taxi...alone...with no chance of a repeat date. Period.
I did not invite her. She invited me out. These days a lot of women ask men out. I've experienced that a lot.
OK, but that is not the case with me. She paid for it, cos she asked me out and she wanted to pay for it, despite only going out to the local pub or other cheap places. Now I pay for most things, and I treat her a lot of times.
A lot of people here are quick to jump on someones throat and call them cheap and tossers just because they done something different.
Wish I could rep you for that, but I guess I did it too much in another thread.
I'm sorry...isn't this a conversational type of thread? Did you want no responses to your post, or only responses that agreed with your point of view?
Disagree all you want, but I expect to be addressed in a more mature manner without the name calling, but I guess that's too much to ask for. No worries.
The whole thing is silly. It's ridiculous to expect a man to pay for all these dinners for random first dates. The dh and I rarely go out to eat, but we did as a treat the other night. It was $140 and this wasn't fine dining. I don't see how people can date like that or why such an expense is an expectation.
Exactly, which is why for the first date/first meeting when I don't know anything about this person, I keep it to meetin for a DRINK or COFFEE.
If it goes bad, I'm paying for two drinks, mine and hers. If it goes well, which it did last time as we talked for almsot 4 hours, then it's $20 tops for like 6 drinks. No harm no foul. But the second date, I always offer, and if she wants to split I'm cool, but I couldn't live with myself if I let her pay for all of it.
OK, but that is not the case with me. She paid for it, cos she asked me out and she wanted to pay for it, despite only going out to the local pub or other cheap places. Now I pay for most things, and I treat her a lot of times.
A lot of people here are quick to jump on someones throat and call them cheap and tossers just because they done something different.
A relationship in which only the woman asks the guy out for a month is quite strange...
Dorrans, that's not the first time you've been very vocal on the subject. You just ARE cheap. If it works for you, more power to you. It doesn't work for most.
A relationship in which only the woman asks the guy out for a month is quite strange...
Dorrans, that's not the first time you've been very vocal on the subject. You just ARE cheap. If it works for you, more power to you. It doesn't work for most.
I am not cheap. And I love how you come to conclusion without even knowing me.
In Britain most women I know don't care about this stuff. We evidently have different etiquettes here. Its an American thing I guess to constantly be concerned about the man paying and all that. I mean, we don't even go on official dates here like you guys do. We just call each other and ask if we wanna hang out for a drink. But hey, if it isnt the American way then it's wrong.
Like it or not, some people are more traditional when it comes to this situation. Most men will insist on paying.
Are you traditional by staying at home cooking meals for your man everyday and submitting to him? I've paid for stuff many times in the past and I will do so in the future if I need to. I've never had a problem paying for anyone when we are out. Never.
I guess my question was overlooked, so I will ask it again. If men are expected to always do the asking and paying to show their respect for you, how do you show your respect for them? I'm genuinely curious.
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