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If he feels like his clock is ticking at 21, he's going to be in for a shock when he reaches 40! His clock is going to feel like a stop-watch in fast forward. You're boyfriend needs to have some of these conversations with elders. Tell him to stop by a retirement home or VA hospital and ask these senior citizens what they think about his "clock ticking" at 21...they could use a good laugh too.
I never would have thought that men have "biological clocks" or as people say it that their "clock is ticking."
I am 21 years old, going on 22 in July. I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years as of March 16th, 2010.
Basically...he suggested starting a family. He is 22, going on 23 August 4th. He said he feels like his "clock is ticking."
Is that common for men? Never knew men thought that way. thought women were more the type who were the ones to be prepared for parenthood first.
The thing is, I don't think I want to start a family anytime soon. I have expressed this to him, and I can see the hurt in his eyes and in his tone.
Would a situation like this be a dealbreaker for you?
and you men say us women are so complicated. bah! lol.
It's more common than you think.
40% of all infertility that couples experience is due to the man. So, yes, men can experience infertility, it can happen at all ages, sometimes the causes are genetic, sometimes they are due to physiological deformities. Most can be corrected with medical intervention, some cannot.
Don't rush into having a child just because he wants it. The best way to bring a child into the world, is both parents want it and are willing to sacrifice to take care of it. Raising a child is no walk in the park, it is alot of work. Ask your guy if he's prepared to wake up at 1:30 in the morning to feed it or change it's diaper. Is he prepared to do this again at 3:30AM the same morning, because infants typically eat every 2-3 hours in the first few months of life. Is he ready to comfort it, swaddle it, rock it when he doesn't know whats wrong and the kid is crying incessantly, then it turns out the kid has colic, but he won't know that because the kid isn't able to talk, it just CRIES and LOUDLY for minutes at a time (feels like an eternity)!!! Is he ready to bathe it, and it cries, because what feels warm to you, is freezing to the baby. Is he ready for the financial expense - take a walk through Babies R US - get ready for sticker shock, kids need ALOT. Better yet, will you be breast feeding or formula fed? Breast feeding is an experience because the infant will be literally attached to you. Formula fed = $$$, it's not cheap. In the first few months of life, here's the key, if the kid cries it usually means 3 things - Feed Me, Change my Diaper, I have GAS and need comfort. The kid rarely cries before drifting off to sleep.
When you are both ready for that, then you're ready to have a kid.
No, I meant that men's testosterone levels cycled during the day, and through the seasons.
Men's testosterone levels are highest in the AM - don't you know this?
Also, drop when he get's older like 50 and up, but not to the extent that his libido goes away. Besides, today, they have all kinds of "aids" to help.
They drop naturally when the woman is pregnant or he's not feeling well.
I know how much everything cost. My mom just had a baby boy- he is two months. I help her with everything He does want to get married. Plus buy a house. Its just funny that he acts like an elder already.
I should make him have conversations with some people in the nursing homes. They would get a good laugh from him. I am not big on marriage right now. I am in pharmacy school, still got 3 years to go!! Everyone has a different opinion though, I assume.
He is ready for parenthood now, supposedly. I am not. I don't feel pressured either and he does not pressure me either. He talks about it a lot though. Its very hard with Lourezno (my baby brother.) Why would I want to bring a baby into the world right now? I am not ready money wise or career wise. I rather have my career set in place.
I know how much everything cost. My mom just had a baby boy- he is two months. I help her with everything He does want to get married. Plus buy a house. Its just funny that he acts like an elder already.
I should make him have conversations with some people in the nursing homes. They would get a good laugh from him. I am not big on marriage right now. I am in pharmacy school, still got 3 years to go!! Everyone has a different opinion though, I assume.
He is ready for parenthood now, supposedly. I am not. I don't feel pressured either and he does not pressure me either. He talks about it a lot though. Its very hard with Lourezno (my baby brother.) Why would I want to bring a baby into the world right now? I am not ready money wise or career wise. I rather have my career set in place.
but does this create a dealbreaker?
If he loves you, he will wait. What's the dealbreaker? - life is about compromising. It's totally selfish of him to keep talking about this clock ticking, unless he knows something and isn't telling you.
I never would have thought that men have "biological clocks" or as people say it that their "clock is ticking."
I am 21 years old, going on 22 in July. I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years as of March 16th, 2010.
Basically...he suggested starting a family. He is 22, going on 23 August 4th. He said he feels like his "clock is ticking."
Is that common for men? Never knew men thought that way. thought women were more the type who were the ones to be prepared for parenthood first.
The thing is, I don't think I want to start a family anytime soon. I have expressed this to him, and I can see the hurt in his eyes and in his tone.
Would a situation like this be a dealbreaker for you?
and you men say us women are so complicated. bah! lol.
LOL.. I posted a question similar to this.. try being in your 30's and dealing with hearing the "clock"...tick tock tick tock (I took my batteries out of my clock in my 20s, popped it back in a year or so ago............... ANYWAY..
If YOU aren't ready to start a family with him, DONT! It would be the worst thing you could ever possibly do, you are both very young, and really have your 20s to go out and see the world, get to know who you are as a person...... its something he will have to understand and if he loves you he will wait when you are ready to start a family, .... For me personally, the 20 year old Tiffany was a lot different than the 30year old Tiffany, and Im not saying that 20 somethings shouldn't get married/have kids because each person is different, but usually more often than not, the people you date, what you look for in a mate in your 20's in TOTALLY different than the person and things you look for in a significant other when you are in your 30's..there is also more to being in love to have kids as well, are you and boyfriend, financially and emotionally ready to raise kids? That was another reason way up until a few years ago never wanted kids, I wasnt ready yet financially and I really loved being single and not having to worry about taking care of a kid.... if he loves ya, he will wait.
that is what i figured. It would be selfish. I just know a lot of people, especially in this day and age are selfish.
Ash---------------------FINISH SCHOOL BEFORE BABIES! That is your dream! Make your dream a reality then you can have a family. Raising kids is SO much easier when you can afford it!
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His clock is going to feel like a stop-watch in fast forward. You're boyfriend needs to have some of these conversations with elders. Tell him to stop by a retirement home or VA hospital and ask these senior citizens what they think about his "clock ticking" at 21...they could use a good laugh too. 
and you men say us women are so complicated. bah! lol.
He does want to get married. Plus buy a house. Its just funny that he acts like an elder already. 
