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Old 06-18-2016, 06:39 PM
 
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We did the very same thing for my MIL in Los Angeles. We reported them anonymously, indicating that my FIL was driving without a license because my MIL - who does drive but poorly - wanted to be shuttled around by dad. Dad was experiencing syncopal episodes. We knew that could happen behind the wheel so we acted quickly.

Since we live 700 miles away from them - they freaked when her license was denied. We had a come-to-Jesus moment with them and told them it was time for assisted living - for someone else to do the driving.

We're glad we did. FIL passed away 7 months later (heart attack) and MIL is still alive at 95 - now three years later. She gets around by the bus at the ALC and friends in town.

You did the right thing and saved lives.
As did you. Thank you for the comment.

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Old 06-19-2016, 06:39 AM
 
Location: Ponte Vedra Beach FL
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Just as a followup on my end - my father has given up driving this year. On his own. He decided it was time. I guess we could have forced the issue. But am relieved we didn't have to do so. Our next problem is dealing with his almost complete lack of mobility (walking). Which will probably be a bigger issue than his driving. Robyn
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Old 06-19-2016, 01:39 PM
 
Location: Wasilla, AK
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Just as a followup on my end - my father has given up driving this year. On his own. He decided it was time. I guess we could have forced the issue. But am relieved we didn't have to do so. Our next problem is dealing with his almost complete lack of mobility (walking). Which will probably be a bigger issue than his driving. Robyn

I've mentioned before how my wife's brother-in-law has MS and is always driving over the line and how he needs to lift his leg with his hand just to move it over to the brake pedal. We've warned my wife's sister and their daughter about his driving, something they should have noticed a long time ago. The daughter's snarky remark was just don't drive with him. Well, now he had an injury accident and the other party has retained an attorney. He's under doctor's orders to not drive until a thorough evaluation either clears him or grounds him. Since they made some poor financial decisions over the years there isn't a whole lot they can lose, but they were already on track to work until their dying days, so that won't change. They'll just die even deeper in debt.
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Old 06-19-2016, 02:27 PM
 
Location: Ponte Vedra Beach FL
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I've mentioned before how my wife's brother-in-law has MS and is always driving over the line and how he needs to lift his leg with his hand just to move it over to the brake pedal. We've warned my wife's sister and their daughter about his driving, something they should have noticed a long time ago. The daughter's snarky remark was just don't drive with him. Well, now he had an injury accident and the other party has retained an attorney. He's under doctor's orders to not drive until a thorough evaluation either clears him or grounds him. Since they made some poor financial decisions over the years there isn't a whole lot they can lose, but they were already on track to work until their dying days, so that won't change. They'll just die even deeper in debt.
Didn't catch what you said before. I'm surprised that someone with a condition like your wife's brother-in-law has never considered getting a car with hand controls (assuming his leg is his only problem). My husband has MS. And - if his MS caused symptoms like those you mention - I'm sure we'd look into hand controls. OTOH - I doubt these aids are cheap - and perhaps they can't afford them. I suppose there is a way of driving with both legs too - but I don't know if this is a desirable way to deal with the issue. Robyn
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Old 06-22-2016, 07:13 AM
 
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One other funny thing, MLB, was on Sunday when we took Dad out for Father's Day. He showed me the suspension notification from the DMW and then talked to me about his test. He was telling me all the things he did right and it didn't sound like he had done too bad. But when I asked about what the reason was the instructor failed him....he said "it was the bike lane". Imagine that (and if you followed this thread at all, you'd know why I said that). He said he never could figure out when to go in and out of them, and never really got what they were. So in the end, the very issue that was at the heart of this thread and how this whole thing got going was his downfall. Sounds like the biker may have actually had a case.
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Old 06-22-2016, 08:19 AM
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Interesting. My MIL actually passed the written test. It was her behind the wheel behavior that got her canned.

Both inlaws had a propensity for never looking before turning.
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Old 06-22-2016, 03:10 PM
 
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Interesting. My MIL actually passed the written test. It was her behind the wheel behavior that got her canned.

Both inlaws had a propensity for never looking before turning.
Same with him. He's never had a problem with the written test. But apparently he was in and out of the bike lane when he got behind the wheel.
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