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Originally Posted by jane_sm1th73
Jeez. One of the most fascinating and accomplished men I ever knew was not good-looking. Not to put too fine a point on it, he was downright homely. And chubby. Looks are not important if you've got the real raw material! (Character. Capability to carry on an intelligent conversation. Humor. Compassion. Financial self-reliance).
Timing was not right - I was working towards financial independence. Simply did not have time or bandwidth to do anything other than kids and momentum (towards financial independence).
(edited to add: IMO, financial independence was worth the opportunity cost).
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Your first paragraph could describe Warren Buffett! He's fairly ordinary, I think he's short, half bald, and a bit chubby, but booooy, is he loaded!!
Since I was just out of homelessness, and my OH just out of bankruptcy, we both picked REAL winners.! Neither had a nickel let alone rub the two nickel s between us together!!!
We each had beater cars, and my OH owned an old mobile home, at least it was paid for. That was it.
But together, we have forged in buying a house, and getting it half paid for in 3 years.
We have SOME money, not a lot, but considering what we started with, it's a lot to us.
We've fought about other things, but rarely about money.
I certainly don't rate a person on looks, I go for the deeper person. The conversationalist ( if they can converse) inside them, the beauty inside, that sort of thing.
And I don't go for any "schmoozing me' though a little romance is nice. ( For example, my OH complain s I don't say the empty words "I love you" enough. I said that's all they are..is just words.. I SHOW my love by bringing home flowers, and by leaving cards ( the greetings kind) around for my OH to find, by occasionally leaving an inexpensive but worthy jewelry piece for my OH...things my OH likes, yet my OH doesn't"feel" my love, because I don't"say it" enough. Grrr. Meanwhile I hate saying it because it sounds so "pat" a response. Soooo many say ",I love you" to the spouse on the way out the door to go see a cheating partner,!!! So just WHAT does the empty words' I love you' mean then?
And, yes both my OH and I can carry on a conversation.
Sex ain't EVERYTHING, lol. Gotta talk about something when the 3 hours of sex are over....
Best to all...
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