My buddy's wife's ex husband didn't retire on Monday because...

[Nomo30346]

My youngest daughter died at age 21 in her sleep in 2012.

Death has no hold over me anymore, if I am diagnosed with a terminal disease I would not be too upset as I want so very badly to see her once again, to hug her, to tell her how very much I missed her .

Both my parents are 89 years old, my mom has dementia and does not know who I am, but perfectly healthy physically, my dad is sharp as a tack, had diabetes, but controls it well with medication. He is spry, walks confidently and without a cane, still drives and lives alone.

So the odds are I will live to be in my 80s barring any accidents .

I am semi-retired, works as a consultant when I want to. My DH and I have enough saved to retire comfortably, but somehow all the saving for our retirement tastes like ashes since our daughter died.

My DH is of the mind that life is short and he must see and do everything. I tag along with him, grateful that he has such a zest for life, which in turn makes life enjoyable for me too.

Its all a matter of perspective I guess. Before my daughter died I was terrified of dying, now, not at all....

[Teacher Terry]

Nono, my best friend lost her 19 year old daughter to a rare liver disease at 19. Nobody ever fully recovers from that. Hugs

[ysr_racer]

I'm sorry for both of your losses. I can't imagine the pain. The loss of a loved one is never "ok". Over time you just learn to deal with it better.

I hurt myself today
To see if I still feel

I focus on the pain
The only thing that's real

The needle tears a hole
The old familiar sting

Try to kill it all away
But I remember everything

What have I become
My sweetest friend

Everyone I know
Goes away in the end -- Johnny Cash

[Nomo30346]

Originally Posted by Teacher Terry

Nono, my best friend lost her 19 year old daughter to a rare liver disease at 19. Nobody ever fully recovers from that. Hugs

Thank you for your kind thoughts and understanding.

I will never be the same again, but have found a way to live with the loss of my beloved daughter.

NOMO

[Nomo30346]

Originally Posted by ysr_racer

I'm sorry for both of your losses. I can't imagine the pain. The loss of a loved one is never "ok". Over time you just learn to deal with it better.

I hurt myself today
To see if I still feel

I focus on the pain
The only thing that's real

The needle tears a hole
The old familiar sting

Try to kill it all away
But I remember everything

What have I become
My sweetest friend

Everyone I know
Goes away in the end -- Johnny Cash

Thank you for posting this, no, it is never ok when you have lost a child.

But you learn to live with the loss.

NOMO

[Teacher Terry]

My friend has learned to live with it too. It’s been 8 years and we talk about her and cry often. The pain has lessened.