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We moved to a resort/retirement area called the Galena Territory in Galena, Illinois. This has been the very worst place to live if you ever thought of making lifelong friends. It is like "high school with gray hair" because cliques still are evident even past 60. Many are retired executives who expect to be catered to as they were in their business. Then there is the 'i was" syndrome, as in I was CEO, CFO, etc. and the women are worse. I attended every single event when we first moved here. Nothing like walking into one of those events to see chairs tipped over as if "you cannot sit here"....so unfriendly. Would never move to a resort type area again. We pay for amenities we do not use. All you find is the "renters" using what you as an "owner" pay for. I agree with "Spuggy".....happy as a couple. We have our family and that is all we need.
We enjoy our only remaining couples. We have been friends since the 1960s and have taken numerous driving vacations with them all over the country.
We are different in almost every respect, he is Jewish, I'm German, she is an ultra-right wing, he and my wife are left, I'm slightly center right, all three are religious, I'm not.
We have a blast together and enjoy dinner at each other's homes, play cards and laugh a lot. He loves to instigate argument's that always end in laughter and a good time.
Our neighbors in Scottsdale proposed some sort of event (pool party?). They are very social, always willing to help out. We haven't done this yet because I've been in the Bay Area since January.
It is difficult to get to know AZ people other than our immediate neighbors because many residents leave for cooler climes in May and don't return until late in the year.
We know a number of people here on the Peninsula but they tend to be confirmed bachelors.
We are going out to dinner with one of our couples friends tonight.
This is probably the main reason that we don't have much in the way of couple friends. We are not much on eating out - and damn near everyone we know considers going out and stuffing their face and drinking, to be their social life. We rarely eat out - mostly because we just aren't comfortable eating those insane portions OR paying that much for a meal. We'd rather go camping, biking, hiking, kayaking, etc., and other than my sis and her BF (who are 5 hours away) we don't know a single couple that is into those activities.
This is probably the main reason that we don't have much in the way of couple friends. We are not much on eating out - and damn near everyone we know considers going out and stuffing their face and drinking, to be their social life. We rarely eat out - mostly because we just aren't comfortable eating those insane portions OR paying that much for a meal. We'd rather go camping, biking, hiking, kayaking, etc., and other than my sis and her BF (who are 5 hours away) we don't know a single couple that is into those activities.
We didn't really stuff our faces. It is a good way to spend concentrated time among a small number of people. The other ways are to go to a sports game (also not cheap) or entertain at home. With this couple we can entertain them but their house is too much of a mess (plus two cats) for them to entertain us. They were due to host a party in July 2021 but the husband came down with a moderate case of Covid.
We didn't really stuff our faces. It is a good way to spend concentrated time among a small number of people. The other ways are to go to a sports game (also not cheap) or entertain at home. With this couple we can entertain them but their house is too much of a mess (plus two cats) for them to entertain us. They were due to host a party in July 2021 but the husband came down with a moderate case of Covid.
Sorry - did not mean it to sound that bad, and surely did not mean you. We just don't enjoy spending so much on food that we can't eat. We'd so much rather go out and be active. So we mostly do those things with just the two of us. We'd rather have company...but oh well.
We have a few couple friends that H and I enjoy hanging out with. We mostly have dinner at someone's home or meet for dinner out. One couple enjoys live music like H and I do so we will all go listen to music and have a few drinks. H and I prefer to travel on our own or with family. We will meet up with a couple we are friends with when we are all in Portugal in October. We have one day planned together and the other couple of days in Porto we will play it by ear as to whether or not we do something with them.
I have been single for years. Most of my current friend group are couples. I started off knowing one of the partners and over time getting to know the other. I am included in dinners and parties, etc. I also have one of my better friends whose husband just cannot be bothered with too many people (outside of work and family) and he is more than happy to have his wife go do fun things with me with virtually no limitations. I have my historic friends that I do not see very much anymore and most of them I did not necessarily know them long enough to get to know both partners. I have less single friends I think just because they are a minority where I live and work.
I think the bottom line is just that having friends is good for the soul. But, really having genuine friends that you have a connection with is what is so good about it. For couples I think it is difficult to be with other people when you are fighting far too much (therefore the couples with couple friends are already not having an internal war zone).
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We just don't enjoy spending so much on food that we can't eat. We'd so much rather go out and be active. So we mostly do those things with just the two of us. We'd rather have company...but oh well.
