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That hasn't been my experience. I have widows as friends and neighbors and not one has ever remarried.
It seems to be the widowers who are quick to move on. My brother was involved with someone just a few months after his wife's death and remarried a little more than a year after her death.
It seems to be the widowers who are quick to move on. My brother was involved with someone just a few months after his wife's death and remarried a little more than a year after her death.
My mother was involved about a month and change after my father's January 1973 death, and remarried in June 1974. The widower's wife had died in April 1972. So not necessarily.
Since this is a retirement forum, I was referring to the death of one.
They are invited over more often than before, and I go out of my way to visit and bring groceries or other things I know they like.
I'm also part of a group that has a monthly dinner for "suddenly singles" and we use an app where people can sign up to attend. We go to a different place every month.
If my spouse were to die, I would miss her terribly. She's my best friend.
I struggle to think how I would ever meet someone with whom to even attempt to start a relationship, let alone marry.
I feel the same about my husband.
My father remarried within 3 months after my mother died. They had been married 40+ years. I think for him it was definitely not wanting to be alone, and he and my mother had made so many plans to travel. They had both just retired and had gone on one Mediterranean cruise when she upped and died on him.
The new marriage only lasted a year. She was a nice enough woman but I was beyond angry about it at first.
My sister was a widow at 58 and one of my cousins was a little younger. My sister has been a widow for 10 years and my cousin for 5 years. Neither has an interest in dating. They go out with friends and sometimes my sister meets up a guy we grew up with but it is platonic.
My FIL was a widow for over 20 years. Briefly dated a woman from church but he never remarried either.
Some people are so afraid of being alone, they will settle for any partner they can find. Some who have been married for many years, do not want another mate. I guess it all depends on what kind of marriage you had in the first place.
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Interesting but we are happy and have very few "couples" friends. There is my lifelong friend and his wife, and a couple that lives a few blocks away, another down the street. Other than that almost all of our social activity is me with a guy and her with a woman. I have nothing in common with the husbands of her friends, and she has nothing in common with the wives of mine.
I go along with my wife to visit her sister, but again, I have nothing in common with her husband other than being related by marriage. Mostly, we enjoy just doing things together without other people along.
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