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Originally Posted by otterhere
I just outlined who owns what... I can "punch in" the PVA right from my own laptop to determine that...
My friend has NO money. No savings. Lives on just SS. Nothing left over after paying the monthly bills (which, again, includes paying for Child 1's cell phone and House A's property taxes; until he sickened and died, her husband was even mowing House A's lawn).
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Well, I guess the mother technically has money if she covers the payments of the wealthier child’s phone?
No matter what the right thing to do - if your friend doesn’t want or can’t do it - it is a moot point.
Proverbial “lead the horse to water, but can’t make it drink”
Is your friend in the early throes of dementia?
You seem forceful and she may not react well to your best ideas on the emotional level.
Maybe if you find other motivations for her to correct this situation?
For example:
- now your concern is her personal finances, including cheating Medicaid and she may not care about that as she is used to surviving
- your second concern is rightfully the vulnerability of the disable son
What I suggest that you put an emphasis on the disabled son’s future - as after her death he will be screwed.
The second concern should be her grandchildren who may become heartless themselves as they grow up and observe their grandmother’s situation.
What I would do in this situation:
- put the house with the mortgage for sale after she obtains the deed.
-pay off mortgage with the proceeds.
-put the rest of the money if any into a special needs trust (SNT- look it up) for her disabled child.
- start an eviction process against 1st child or simply move in the house A with her 2 son.
It will cause her 1 son to move out.
- meantime, or at the same time start a process of obtaining an apartment in public housing for her disabled 2nd son, where he will only pay 1/3 of his income as rent.
Having rent instead of owning a house is better for disabled - so they can’t be tricked by unsavory people who could exploit them by moving with them or in some other ways cheating them out of their assets
This will ensure that he will never be homeless or robbed by his brother.
The SNT will be covering 2nd son’s needs: extra medical needs, clothing, groceries, appliances replacement, furniture, mattresses replacements, transportation and eventually - long term care if needed?
It may happen that he won’t be able to work? He still could be fine with the trust?
You could be a trustee to disperse it or any other reliable person when the mother is gone.
Then it is up to her: if she wants/can afford to pay taxes/upkeep for house A - she could live there while observing the situation with her disabled son living on his own in his own place, keeping her eye on him and teaching him to be on his own.
If the 1st son cuts her contact with the grandchildren - she should threaten him with cutting him out of her will completely (just make sure she doesn’t omit him and grandchildren by naming them in the will and leaving them $10 each - so he can’t sue )
Her leverage to see grandchildren will be this:
As that special needs trust if not spent - could go to him as a second beneficiary or to charity/nursing home/religious organization which may take care of her second son + at least half of house A proceeds after her death - which she should split or not?
Half of the house A proceeds may go to the same special needs trust for care of 2nd son, half could go to the first son or not in case he is denying her access to her grandchildren
If the 1st is a donkey - then she should move all the proceeds to SNT for her 2nd son.
Ideally: I would sell both houses while she is alive to fund the SNT for her 2nd son, perhaps renting with him.
Then the 1st son won’t be able to screw up his brother and still should be nicer to his mother in hopes to become a beneficiary when the SNT have to dissolve after the death of his brother.
Otherwise the remaining money go to charity
Hopefully, the mother could live another 5 years (Medicaid look back period) after /if she decides to sell both houses and fund the SNT for her 2nd son. There could be a different rule if she sends money to SNF ; it may not be even counted by the Medicaid if the beneficiaries of the trust are non-profits?
What is her monthly income? Does she even qualify for Medicaid if she disposes her extra house?
I am a bit fuzzy and don’t have time to look it up: it could be a regular trust for 2nd son or SNT - the 2nd son is better off with SNT, but there could be special inheritance rules after the death of 2nd son;
Regular trust may benefit 1st son better - he may still inherit or her grandchildren could for sure, but it may go against her with the Medicaid and against her 2nd son as he may not be entitled to certain public benefits?