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Before we got engaged (but when we knew we would) my now wife and I went "idea" shopping. She knew an approximate budget, and ended up falling in love with somewhich which we bought on the spot. Total price might have been about one month's gross of my salary, not three. She got exactly what she wanted, classic looking 3 stone, but not a too big primary (she didn't want too much ring, her hands are small and she works with them all day), so we ended up going with a very high quality three quarter karot diamond instead of a larger, middle of the road quality stone.
Greedy, materialistic chick here...and I wanted a big rock. (to some it's big, to others it's small. It just depends on who you ask. )
And where is all this 3 months nonsense coming from??? I've heard two used as a bench mark by marketing campaigns, but never three.
It's always been 3. There have been ads in zines running for years..."Is Three months salary really too much...blah, blah..." Don't you recall those?
In any event, I think it's the man that matters, not the ring. But I want one that registers as an engagement/wedding ring, not just a ring that can be anything.
I thought it was 2 months as well, but its just a guideline probably made up by jewelry industry. Work with a guy whos girfriend is very attractive, down to earth and cool - but she told him straight up that she wont accept a ring for any less than 30k. Poor guy is going out of his mind trying to come up with this money so he can propose. I personaly find it disgusting, but then again I really dislike materialistic and greedy people.
How much did or would you spend on an engagement ring? Would you subscribe to the industry's propaganda about 3 months salary? How would you feel about someone who insisted on an expensive ($10k+) ring? Would it be a dealbreaker for you if someone placed a huge importance on the value of the ring that you give them? I would imagine that a woman who truly loved you would be happy no matter what you gave them - even if it was a cheap cubic zirc ring...
I didn't get an engagement ring, so I can't answer about the cost, but insisting on a ring that a man couldn't afford would be a red flag, yes. I don't think there's anything wrong with receiving an expensive ring, however. Two of my sisters-in-law are wealthy, and both have large diamond rings that were probably upwards of $20,000. I don't know much about diamonds, but one of them got a 2-carat solitaire from Tiffany, and I've heard what 1 carat costs. If a man has the money and wants to spend it, that's their business.
Good cubic zirconia is not cheap, by the way. Cheaper rings tend to be large and gaudy, and they don't fool anybody.
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(to some it's big, to others it's small. It just depends on who you ask. 
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