What's The Atlanta Dating Scene like? (neighborhoods, DMV, income)

[0nyxStation]

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[R.J. Kencade]

Originally Posted by Lisa887

Am I overreacting or should I not really be concerned about the dating scene?

At a certain point in life dating becomes difficult for anyone and of any race. The older you get the harder it becomes.

When we were in High School and College, we had "instant access" to a pool of people to date. As we get older and work and life in general gets in the way, things get a little more difficult.

Having said that, I don't think you'll have any concerns. Dating is never easy. Be open and flexible.

There are lots of great guys that make $40k a year that will be well worth consideration as well as guys that make $250K+.

Whatever you do, don't assume dating another ethnic group is the "magic bullet". If you like men other than blacks date them because you like them not because of some "myth" about black men being in a "shortage",etc...

I am a Director of Finance and earn what most would consider a great income and I am dating a gal that earns $27k year. Why? Because I like her. I did not "select" her based on her job title nor income. She can most certainly cover herself and expenses. As long as she can do that, she's good in my book. We often times miss out of wonderful people because we (think we)need an "equal"........

[PKCorey]

Originally Posted by Freeminds

What tv specials are there on dating in Atlanta? How old are you OP?

Originally Posted by Johnny Danes

None. Only the Real Housewives Of Atlanta and that's not a dating show.

She is probably talking about this:

Why Are There So Many Single Black Females? - ABC News

[Mary20852]

Originally Posted by Lisa887

I will be relocating from New York City to Atlanta.

A little information about myself:

I'm a young educated black woman, currently working in public health management for the federal government. I will be transferring to an office that's relatively close to CNN. My salary is in the mid 90k range and I'm currently single.

I've seen several tv specials regarding black women and dating in Atlanta. I'm a bit worried that I won't be able to find an educated professional straight man (who earns a comparable salary) in the Atlanta area. I'm only interested in marriage minded men.

I'm certainly open to dating non black men, but I'm not sure of the racial dynamics in Atlanta. I've heard that people pretty much self segregate. I will be residing in Midtown, since the location is close to my job.

Am I overreacting or should I not really be concerned about the dating scene?

I'm a young professional black woman with a similar income. When I lived in Atlanta for a year, I didn't have an active dating life. But this was probably due to my own habits. I don't drink or smoke, so needless to say, I wasn't into happy hour events. I did however join meet-ups, and road runner events. Unfortunately, I didn't have much luck meeting Mr. Right, but everyone's situation is different.

[R.J. Kencade]

Originally Posted by Mary20852

I'm a young professional black woman with a similar income. When I lived in Atlanta for a year, I didn't have an active dating life. But this was probably due to my own habits. I don't drink or smoke, so needless to say, I wasn't into happy hour events. I did however join meet-ups, and road runner events. Unfortunately, I didn't have much luck meeting Mr. Right, but everyone's situation is different.

I think this is where people go wrong. They remain in DIRECT search for a mate. I've always focused on building a big social circle. People come and go like the seasons. After a while once my social circle became big I'd always have a pool of people to date either by way of introduction or by way of just meeting friends of friends in my social circle.

We accept the notion that the best jobs are not advertised and can only be had by way of networking or being on the "inside". Why is dating or meeting a quality mate any different? It's not.

[0nyxStation]

Originally Posted by R.J. Kencade

I think this is where people go wrong. They remain in DIRECT search for a mate. I've always focused on building a big social circle. People come and go like the seasons. After a while once my social circle became big I'd always have a pool of people to date either by way of introduction or by way of just meeting friends of friends in my social circle.

We accept the notion that the best jobs are not advertised and can only be had by way of networking or being on the "inside". Why is dating or meeting a quality mate any different? It's not.

dating & mating is easy, its the most natural thing humans should do, but difficult people make life difficult for themselves & like to blame the opposite gender for their singleness. I find the lonliest people are the ones who want too much. They deserve to suffer lonliness & all the sadness actached to it.

[Mary20852]

Originally Posted by BlackPeach2

I find the lonliest people are the ones who want too much. They deserve to suffer lonliness & all the sadness actached to it.

Your statement is on the harsh side. I don't believe wanting a person who has similar beliefs, earnings, education, religious affiliation, upbringing, etc., is "wanting too much."

For example, since I don't drink or smoke, I only date men who do not drink or smoke either. I think relationships tend to be more successful when we date people who share a similar way of life, because the commonality makes things less stressful.

[ThreeSides]

Originally Posted by R.J. Kencade

At a certain point in life dating becomes difficult for anyone and of any race. The older you get the harder it becomes.

When we were in High School and College, we had "instant access" to a pool of people to date. As we get older and work and life in general gets in the way, things get a little more difficult.

Having said that, I don't think you'll have any concerns. Dating is never easy. Be open and flexible.

There are lots of great guys that make $40k a year that will be well worth consideration as well as guys that make $250K+.

Whatever you do, don't assume dating another ethnic group is the "magic bullet". If you like men other than blacks date them because you like them not because of some "myth" about black men being in a "shortage",etc...

I am a Director of Finance and earn what most would consider a great income and I am dating a gal that earns $27k year. Why? Because I like her. I did not "select" her based on her job title nor income. She can most certainly cover herself and expenses. As long as she can do that, she's good in my book. We often times miss out of wonderful people because we (think we)need an "equal"........

Gold!

[Johnny Danes]

Great post. Solid advice.

Originally Posted by R.J. Kencade

At a certain point in life dating becomes difficult for anyone and of any race. The older you get the harder it becomes.

When we were in High School and College, we had "instant access" to a pool of people to date. As we get older and work and life in general gets in the way, things get a little more difficult.

Having said that, I don't think you'll have any concerns. Dating is never easy. Be open and flexible.

There are lots of great guys that make $40k a year that will be well worth consideration as well as guys that make $250K+.

Whatever you do, don't assume dating another ethnic group is the "magic bullet". If you like men other than blacks date them because you like them not because of some "myth" about black men being in a "shortage",etc...

I am a Director of Finance and earn what most would consider a great income and I am dating a gal that earns $27k year. Why? Because I like her. I did not "select" her based on her job title nor income. She can most certainly cover herself and expenses. As long as she can do that, she's good in my book. We often times miss out of wonderful people because we (think we)need an "equal"........

[toll_booth]

Originally Posted by BlackPeach2

dating & mating is easy, its the most natural thing humans should do, but difficult people make life difficult for themselves & like to blame the opposite gender for their singleness. I find the lonliest people are the ones who want too much. They deserve to suffer lonliness & all the sadness actached to it.

I don't agree with the last sentence, but there is a lot of truth in the rest of this. People who are looking for Mr. or Ms. Right are going to be looking for a LONG time. Have standards, but don't make those standards impossibly high.