What's The Atlanta Dating Scene like? (live, moving, bars)

[Zanarkand A East]

Atlanta's not as segregated by race as you seem to think, unless you're in the 'burbs perhaps (but I never go there anymore). I work in Midtown, and spend most of my time in the intown neighborhoods, and there's a great mix of people and interracial couples all over town. As far as finding the right guy, I'm interested just based on how you described yourself, but I and many guys like me apparently don't make enough to warrant a glance from you

Originally Posted by Mary20852

Your statement is on the harsh side. I don't believe wanting a person who has similar beliefs, earnings, education, religious affiliation, upbringing, etc., is "wanting too much."

For example, since I don't drink or smoke, I only date men who do not drink or smoke either. I think relationships tend to be more successful when we date people who share a similar way of life, because the commonality makes things less stressful.

This makes sense; there's no need to compromise wholesale, but odds are you'll have to compromise on at least part of what you want. I'm curious: what "similar beliefs ... education, religious affiliaton, and upbringing" are you looking for?

[Mary20852]

Originally Posted by Zanarkand A East

Atlanta's not as segregated by race as you seem to think, unless you're in the 'burbs perhaps (but I never go there anymore). I work in Midtown, and spend most of my time in the intown neighborhoods, and there's a great mix of people and interracial couples all over town. As far as finding the right guy, I'm interested just based on how you described yourself, but I and many guys like me apparently don't make enough to warrant a glance from you



This makes sense; there's no need to compromise wholesale, but odds are you'll have to compromise on at least part of what you want. I'm curious: what "similar beliefs ... education, religious affiliaton, and upbringing" are you looking for?

Just know that I am not asking a guy to have anything that I haven't been able to accomplish, achieve or acquire myself in terms of overall morals/ family values, education, career/income, and maintaining a healthy lifestyle.

[Rozi30213]

I'm 33 years old and black and I have yet to have a date in Atlanta. I have a very active social life too. It is what it is. Some people were just born to be single.... While others have good luck. There are a lot of fun places in Midtown to meet people though... Good luck!

[RocNY]

Originally Posted by Mary20852

since I don't drink or smoke, I only date men who do not drink or smoke either.

Good Luck!

[Atlanta_BD]

Originally Posted by Rozi30213

I'm 33 years old and black and I have yet to have a date in Atlanta. I have a very active social life too. It is what it is. Some people were just born to be single.... While others have good luck. There are a lot of fun places in Midtown to meet people though... Good luck!

It's not that some people were born to be single. Sometimes we are just fishing in the wrong pond. It is known that Atlanta is not a good place for single black women. Speaking from a transplant perspective, I knew very few women regarsless of race who moved here from other cities and found a mate here. I've lived here for 16 years and only 4 of my girlfriends found husbands here. The married women I know moved here with husbads in tow. Everyone else is single and dateless or in dead-end relationships.

Dating in Atlanta is difficult. It's even harder for black women. It's tough to find men who want to even take you on a real date, much less have any kind of relationship. They want to bed you but will look at you cross-eyed and crazy if you expect to be taken anywhere.

[Rozi30213]

Originally Posted by Atlanta_BD

It's not that some people were born to be single. Sometimes we are just fishing in the wrong pond. It is known that Atlanta is not a good place for single black women. Speaking from a transplant perspective, I knew very few women regarsless of race who moved here from other cities and found a mate here. I've lived here for 16 years and only 4 of my girlfriends found husbands here. The married women I know moved here with husbads in tow. Everyone else is single and dateless or in dead-end relationships.

Dating in Atlanta is difficult. It's even harder for black women. It's tough to find men who want to even take you on a real date, much less have any kind of relationship. They want to bed you but will look at you cross-eyed and crazy if you expect to be taken anywhere.

Everything you said is true!! I will date outside my race too but still haven't found anyone!

[toll_booth]

Originally Posted by Zanarkand A East

Atlanta's not as segregated by race as you seem to think, unless you're in the 'burbs perhaps (but I never go there anymore). I work in Midtown, and spend most of my time in the intown neighborhoods, and there's a great mix of people and interracial couples all over town. As far as finding the right guy, I'm interested just based on how you described yourself, but I and many guys like me apparently don't make enough to warrant a glance from you



This makes sense; there's no need to compromise wholesale, but odds are you'll have to compromise on at least part of what you want. I'm curious: what "similar beliefs ... education, religious affiliaton, and upbringing" are you looking for?

Zanarkand? A FFX fan?

[dmv2atl]

I find it hard to believe that some folks on here say that they have yet to go on a date?? I lived in Atlanta for four years and had zero problems finding a date or getting into a relationship. I have been living in DC for the past four years and my experience has been quite the opposite. I can not wait to be back in Atlanta in a couple of months to get back to a healthy dating scene. I too have similar demographics as the original poster: African-American, 30, female, 6-figure salary; however I am completely comfortable with men who do not make a comparable salary to myself, as long as they can hold their own. Man, I really hope the dating scene in Atlanta hasn't changed THAT drastically since 2009.

[Atlanta_BD]

Originally Posted by dmv2atl

I find it hard to believe that some folks on here say that they have yet to go on a date?? I lived in Atlanta for four years and had zero problems finding a date or getting into a relationship. I have been living in DC for the past four years and my experience has been quite the opposite. I can not wait to be back in Atlanta in a couple of months to get back to a healthy dating scene. I too have similar demographics as the original poster: African-American, 30, female, 6-figure salary; however I am completely comfortable with men who do not make a comparable salary to myself, as long as they can hold their own. Man, I really hope the dating scene in Atlanta hasn't changed THAT drastically since 2009.

As I said, I have lived here for nearly 20 years and the dating scene has been mostly crappy the entire time for me. I used to get dates in the 90's/early 2000's. Now I don't get dates at all. I am so looking forward to moving from here.

One of my friends lived here for 8 years and she never went on a date or had a relationship the entire time. She recently moved back to where she came from.

[Atlanta_BD]

Some things work better for some people than for others. All I know is that Atlanta hasn't worked for me despite my efforts lol.