Broke and needing to vent... (Columbia: house, find a job, landscaping)
Charleston areaCharleston - North Charleston - Mt. Pleasant - Summerville - Goose Creek
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In times like this, there is nothing positive in pounding others.
You never know what someone is going through, and the flip side is
if this was you, wouldn't you want some kindness.
For us, a few years ago to cut costs we cut the cable. Well it was direct tv....and it was the best choice we made. Our internet was through the phone company, and you can have stand alone DSL via AT&T/Bellsouth with no problems. It's just a thought to cut expenses.
Up here we have a choice between Charter.............. and well, Charter for internet.
Yeah, 100% concurrence with ya. Kindness is crucial- plus the knowledge that you are anything but alone if you have financial problems these days.
I'm sure that you are not the only one struggling today and many of us have been in your position at one time or another. Are you strong enough for a challenge? Perhaps suggest to your husband that the two of you take on the challenge to try and live as inexpensively as possible. I mean accept this as a challenge, make it a goal. Live to live cheaply. Go ahead and blog about your accomplishments, from the library computers. I'd bet you'd be shocked with what you can live without and how much you can accomplish. Did you know that with the new digital tv's and an intenna, you can pick up many, many free stations. Buy the TV at Wal-Mart and cancel your cable. Sell the car and buy a motorcycle, or bike. Do NOT be afraid to ask for assistance. You can do this, you can make it.
cape_fisherman might have been a little blunt, but he is exactly right
It sounds like your husband is the main problem. Whether it be depression or laziness, he needs to get help and at least TRY to find a job. There is no excuse for him sitting on the couch all day while you are out working to support the both of you.
You only have one problem. Your husband is lazy and does not love his family.
Depression has nothing to do with it.
Tell him to get off his rear, get out there, and help YOU with this situation.
You will never get to the place you want to be alone...at least not with that extra mouth to feed.
Sorry for the very blunt post, but there are jobs for your husband to have. Do not be fooled into thinking there is not. Craigslist is loaded with them.
Nothing wrong with the truth...somebody had to say it.
Now back to the post from SummerSweat....
Help yourself first before you do anything next....cable is available for free at the library.
Take on a part time job and do whatever it takes to get yourself out of your situation.
Recommend you listen to Dave Ramsey on 94.3 FM 6:00 pm - you'll do a lot better than posting a 'woe is me' post on the Internet.
I can understand some of the responses to my post. It was very blunt and in no way politically correct.
If you're in as deep a mess as you make it out to be, then yes I would cancel the cable...all of it. No TV, no internet. I bed if there's no entertainment in the house, your husband would get motivated...maybe, maybe not.
You can use all the numbers you want to say how many more people there are for the number of available jobs...but at the end of the day THERE ARE AVAILABLE JOBS. Giving up simply because the job market isn't as large as YOU like it is the "woe is me" mindset.
If you don't want to use Craigslist, that's ok...but don't use that as yet another excuse to not look for a job. There are other resources out there.
Also, don't cancel your internet......that is a means to job hunt.
If you are cutting expenses then cut the cable off, you would
be surprised how that alone can and will change your outlook !!!!!
the library is a whole lot cheaper than monthly internet payments!
I was job searching a few months back - I am a professional with a solid resume & found it very hard to even get a call back when I was submitting my resume directly to jobs either finding them in the paper or on the internet. The best approach is to use a recruiter or a staffing company. There are many of them out there either in specialty areas or in broad areas. The fact is that so many people are looking for jobs employers are overwhelmed with the amount of resumes they get on a daily basis so they are depending more on these companies to go through the applicants for them to find qualified people. Have your husband sign up for several of them as well as looking on his own. I did speak with my recruiter about a week ago & he said the jobs are starting to pick up out there.
It's amazing how people still use self-serving sites like Monster, etc as proof that jobs which aren't there are.
These type of sites were (note tense of verb) used by places like CNBC, etc- corporate news outlets that had a vested interest in keeping up the charade of a healthy job market while Dubya was at the helm.
Problem was (for the networks) that every time the for-profit job sites said their data would show unemployment was going down, it would go up.
It got to the point to where even among CNBC's "Business Roundtable" only guys like Kudlow would still point to the bogus data, and even on pro-corporate CNBC, he'd be dismissed by guys like Liesman and Shields.
When you can't even put up enough of a show to convince the allready faithfull that your snake oil is the cure, well, then you're bound for 3:00 AM infomercial territory
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