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It is a lifestyle choice to not have kids. As my kids get older I am thinking I want to be a part of that lifestyle. Two of my sisters can't have kids. One does not want to be bothered by them. The other one and her husband adopted three. We have family friends that did the same, they adopted when they found they could not have kids.
I listened to a comedian talking about this. She had a bit about becoming a mom. People congratulating her about becoming a mom. She tells people in this bit that it was not that hard for her to become a mom. In fact when she first became a mom she had no idea, she was just having a fun Saturday night and then nine months later she was a mom. Of course it is more funny when she tells it, and I wish I could give you her name. She is funny. Unfortunately, my memory is shot, probably from being a dad of 6 kids.
The associated website makes it sound like child free people are victims who will be competing with the rest of the victims on the victim ideology totem pole. Next thing you know they'll have scholarships and affirmative action for them:
"In 2014, the Selection Panel voted to give a Lifetime Childfree Contribution Award to a very special member of the childfree community: Marcia-Drut-Davis (US). She is a pioneer of the childfree lifestyle. In 1974, she lost the job she loved (teaching children), lost friends, and was persecuted after being interviewed on 60 Minutes about the choice to have no children. She even faced death threats and picket lines when she spoke on this topic. Her memoir, Confessions of a Childfree Woman: A Life Spent Swimming Against Mainstream, details her struggles to help younger women and men understand and make this life choice if it is right for them. Marcia’s blog, Childfree Reflections, conversations on her Facebook pages, and speaking to groups have contributed much to the acceptance of the childfree choice in society today."
You know something, some of the comments you make are prone to getting "misunderstood" by the average reader. Step back and take look sometime. Here you're talking pretty blithely about a pandemic that kills billions of people. What kind of world would come out of that? How would the survivors be effected? I guess you can think it would be really cool when you don't have any kids or grandkids to worry about. And you wonder why people who celebrate "Child Free Day" are seen as a bunch of narcissistic kooks by people who do the heavy lifting in this life.
I was with you up until the bold part. Are you implying that those of us who chose not to have children have nothing to offer this world? Because like it or not, that's how it comes off.
And for the record, I think an International Childfree Day is ridiculous.
Are you implying that those of us who chose not to have children have nothing to offer this world?
Nothing? No, I'm not implying that. But I can personally vouch that it's harder to be a parent than to not be a parent. Our first child wasn't born until I was 34, so I've tasted both worlds.
I was with you up until the bold part. Are you implying that those of us who chose not to have children have nothing to offer this world? Because like it or not, that's how it comes off.
I also hate the (very false) idea that the childfree don't care about the future just because we don't have kids. Only someone with an incredibly selfish mindset would assume that one could only care about their OWN children.
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They should get spayed or neutered to ensure they won’t reproduce
Childfree people attempt to do that all the time and are rejected. It's actually incredibly difficult to get sterilized. If you want us to be sterilized, go talk to the doctors who refuse to give people the procedure.
We're not allowed to mention other forums here. But there's a pretty big one out there centered around the childfree. If you read there, you'll find many stories about people being denied sterilization.
I had my tubes tied at age 23. They did try to make me consider it carefully, saying things like, "What if you find the perfect man, but he wants children?"
I replied, "Then he isn't the perfect man."
I have never regretted doing this. And I did find the perfect man.
I had my tubes tied at age 23. They did try to make me consider it carefully, saying things like, "What if you find the perfect man, but he wants children?"
I replied, "Then he isn't the perfect man."
I have never regretted doing this. And I did find the perfect man.
My daughter had it done last year, at 26. (While she was still under my insurance, which was smart of her.) Her partner doesn't want kids, either. She made that very clear when dating that this was not something she was going to change her mind about.
There was never a time in my daughter's life when she talked about growing up and having kids. She was given two beautiful baby dolls, a boy and a girl, as a present when she was little, and she set up them in a little bed in the corner of her room and never played with them.
I had my tubes tied at age 23. They did try to make me consider it carefully, saying things like, "What if you find the perfect man, but he wants children?"
I replied, "Then he isn't the perfect man."
I have never regretted doing this. And I did find the perfect man.
That's good! I hope more doctors are beginning to come around on this. It seems there are loads of childfree people now and it shouldn't be such a shocking thing anymore that some people don't ever want to have kids.
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